smallwhitecat - agree, good idea.
Don't know how the £20K was calculated - didn't go into details on the telly!
Riven, I think careers should get more support, maybe they could if more people were encouraged back to work.
In the Netherlands, 10 years ago, if you were on benefits you HAD to return to work when all your children were school aged if they were all of sound mind and body, or retrain and you HAD to participate in training for work if you were single. Also you weren't given choices. My friend who received permanent neck damage courtesy of her XH HAD to retrain so she could work when her kids were school age, as she had to give up her career as a Nursery Nurse due to the injury. She didn't mind and agreed it was part of her commitment to her family, to financially support them too.
This isn't just about families, is it? IMVHO it's about having a work ethic (for some) and how to get people back inot the workforce when other posters are right, the step up in finances just isn't enough to motivate some people to do what I think a lot of people would agree is 'the right thing' which is to be as financially independent as possible.
Don't have a problem with people who make a positive contribution - happy to support - BUT the system is such that it is possible to take advantage of it. What about all the singletons who are claiming benefits, what's to stop them from working? They can't even justify their time as providing excellent parenting (as many couples/singles do, when they have children - provide the excellent parenting I mean )
riven - why didn't you just pick up the benefits though, if you really don't think it's a problem for others to? You seem incredibly generous eg you appear to think you should have worked, so you did, but think others shouldn't have to.
Agree that careers shouldn't have to, caring is a job and a half anyway (to put it mildly)!