Those babies who were swapped at birth - just WHAT would you do?

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Apparently one of the mums doesn't want to switch the babies back yet.

My dd2 is 10 months and I just couldn't. Dh thinks that in that situation he would have to swap back which rather surprised me, to be honest.

I've been sitting here for about 5 mins trying to think what I would do and I really don't know - there is no way I would want to give up the child I'd had for 10 months but at the same time you would know that "your" child was elsewhere with complete strangers.

You would be wondering about them, missing them,wanting to see what they are like and watch them grow up.

It doesn't bear thinking about. Awful, awful predicament for those parents involved.

i couldnt give my ten month old away. what if you put her in the hands of someone awful?

this happened in america and the families were both lovely - thankfully - they ended up NOT swapping but living next door to each other

When I first heard the story, I would have said swap back ASAP, before they get much older. Reading the views of mums of 10mo here makes me rethink.

I think the best scenario would be to swap back ASAP, but to really keep a close touch - bring them up like cousins, for example.

the other family would have to think the same as you though
unfortunately not everyone is so nice and considerate
id get the courts involved tbh

no way could I have swapped after 10 months

then again, now after 6 years I might be able to

I think it's very telling that ,apparently, of the two mums, on is more attached than the other to "her" baby :
the mother who breastfed her child.
Speaking as a Mum who breastfed both her children for longer than usual , I think it's also terribly sad that one child missed out on mummy's milk in those crucial early months....

i would say breastfeeding is the least of their worries right now.

So all those people who adopted children and or were adopted themselves after 9 months will be scarred for life?

I don't buy it.

SIL was adopted by my ILs from foster care when she was4.

She's a fantastic, well-adjusted young woman and mother.

but how much more messed up would you be if you found out as a teen or young adult that you were swapped and your birth family didn't take you back?

sorry, i wish there were a link to this story.

its so sad think you would have to be in that situation to know what would feel right

link is here I think

swap back & keep in contact

As the mother of an adopted baby who I adore, my husband adores, and who shows every sign of adoring us, I object to the implication that you can't be as attached if you don't breasfeed