"It is also easy to know the basics of being a human being though maddie. Basic instinct is you don't hurt babies"
Unfortunately, people who themselves have been hurt as babies don't have this basic instinct. There's this tendency to assume that we all have a basic instinct that is more or less basic to being human, but if that instinct is damaged, then there is very good evidence that the normal empathetic responses will not develop. I can't remember where I read it but it's something about neural pathways linking and needing good eye contact, care etc., which if it's not forthcoming, will delay or prevent the development of what the rest of us regard as basic instinct. (Someone else more scientific than me will come along and explain it properly, perhaps.)
Time and time again, when you look at stories of people who have abused children, they almost invariably have been themselves abused as children. It's very rare for someone from a happy, normal family, to abuse their child. Which is why it's so important to break the cycle. Unfortunately, the powers that be seem to be going through a fashion at the moment of seeing all parents as potential abusers and therefore not wanting to make value judgements about parents who are probably going to have extra difficulty bonding with their babies and treating them properly, because of their own lack of care in their own childhoods.
On one level of course we're all potential abusers, but in the RW, it would make much more sense to stop treating all parents with suspicion and to focus attention and resources on parents who are obviously in need of more support than average. But that would involve making some very uncomfortable judgements, which the professions involved seem strangely reluctant to do. They'd rather just pretend all parents are dodgy and treat us accordingly. Meanwhile these poor children (and their poor hopeless parents) are just left to suffer.