OMG has anyone seen this "tell your loved ones they're fat" thing? Have these people ever experienced a family christmas?

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Now luckily I don't see rellies any more at christmas, but when I did, if there was any possible way I could make the whole thing more tense and excruciating, it would be this

I mean I know there is an overweight problem and there's a place for a public health message but "health experts believe it [christmas] is the perfect time to tell a loved one they are overweight"??? Are they mad?

Yes, nethunsreject, I am a size 6 and I just don't put on weight. The first 20 times someone says I'm skinny is fine, when the same person says it that 21st time, I think I'm within my rights to tell them to piss off.

I feel like I have to apologise for my figure sometimes.

See, nobody did a big-picture analysis here.

How much is it going to cost the NHS to stitch up all the interfering rellies who got glassed over the Xmas pudding by their fat family members?

Fat people are always being nagged, laughed at, lectured to etc let them have one day off.
Is it Ok to then tell everyone they cannot eat or drink anything unhealthy, announce to your sister that your BIl was looking at other sisters backside, tell an anorexic they are too thin, tell someone with cancer they should try such and such treatment rather than the one they are getting, tell friends relatives that in actual fact you think their partner is a loser and they would be happier and healthier if they left them, tell people you think their child is under developed for their age, that actually sister sleeps with too many different people an dshould watch out for STDs etc.
Or you could mind you own business and not assume you are perfect either.

I think the word must be out in the NE, judging by the number of bemused fatties in Sainsbury's veg aisle this morning

I have a relative who kept banging on to me about my weight when I was a tall, size 12 teenager. Guess what? I put on loads of weight.

I agree with OP and Boulevard.

People should shut the fuck up.

Hear, hear LineRunner.

The article says that it should be discussed sensitively - yeah right there is nothing senstitive in telling someone that they are overweight. It is very difficult to hear from a loved one - I could do with shifting a stone but it is very hurtful when people close to you make remarks to snide comments or give you that look when eating - yes DH that is you !

Wouldn't matter so much if DH had a six pack but he hasn't and he could do with losing more than a stone I tell you.

When I have been called a 'fat ' by my DH it hurts so much and it ends in a cycle of eating more to deal with the emotional aspect of it all. Despite all this I am fitter than him , dont drink or smoke - and walk dog two hours a day.

It's got to be done in a constructive manner but more often than not it will be said and cause a lot of hurt.

I think it's all a concerted plan by the BBC to ensure that there is plenty of news on Boxing day due to the inevitable bouts of family violence/murder/massacre which ensue from this recommendation.

And people should not do to people what Avantia rightly calls 'that look when eating.'

My BiL used to do this to SiL - including at the wedding of myself and ExH - and it was horrid and cringey. Was the poor woman not actually allowed a meal, then? And he was no adonis himself.

the best way to help is to make the person feel good about themselves , to give them the strength to change if that's what they want to do.
I t is extremely patronising to tell someone they are overweight- do you think it might have escaped their notice? you are basically suggesting they asre stupid as well as fat