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Find advice from other parents on our Homeschool forum. You may also find our round up of the best online learning resources useful.

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Ds1 is being bullied because he is bright, school not helping, want to home-ed him and dd2 until we can get them into a new school.

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SparklyGothKat · 19/03/2008 16:14

please excuse no caps, am bf.

Ds1 came home again from school today, me and his teacher have noticed he is not himself and hasn't been for a while now. we have spoken to him and he said he is being bullied. The teacher spoke to the class today and it seems that people think he is a computer geek!
I have put Dd1 and Dd2 onto the waiting list for a new school, just around the corner and it appears that Dd1 will be moving there next term, as she has a statement, but we now want to remove the other 2 until we can get them into the new school. I am willing to HE until that happens. I also believe that I will be able to get work that Ds1 will not find easy and boring.
Ds1 has had more time off school this term than ever before, due to 'stomach aches' or 'his legs hurting' (he has cerebral palsy)
Because of all this I want to find out how I go about HE and if I will be breaking any rules.

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AMumInScotland · 19/03/2008 17:11

Have you had a read of the main HE websites yet? The main ones are Education Otherwise and HE-UK. I think you'll find that it is really quite straightforward to HE your children, particularly at primary school age. Secondary can be straightforward too, but trickier if they want to take qualifications (though there are ways of doing that too). I HE my DS(14) - I didn't know much about it till I started looking a year or so back, but it's a lot more "free & easy" than a lot of people think.

AMumInScotland · 19/03/2008 17:12

If you Google something like "KS2 worksheets" you should find a lot of resources.

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SparklyGothKat · 19/03/2008 17:19

Ds1 wants to go on the school trip on june, which we have started to pay for so will think about it for after that

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Freckle · 19/03/2008 17:20

In that case, use the time until them to try to get the school to address the bullying. If there are other children being bullied too, contact their parents and present a united front. You have the opportunity to make a difference here.

avenanap · 19/03/2008 17:21

It's prolonging the agony though. Is he going with the bullies? June's a few months, alot can happen in a few months.

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SparklyGothKat · 19/03/2008 17:24

I know, but I don;t want to upset him anymore. I did think about flexi-schooling, and seeing if that helps any.

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avenanap · 19/03/2008 17:25

Is it going to upset him more if he has to go back tomorrow to be bullied again or to miss a trip? Sorry to be blunt.

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SparklyGothKat · 19/03/2008 17:29

i know, i know, I am in in a muddle! |Ds1 is upset at the thought of leaving his teacher (he is a good teacher, but in a crap school) and missing his trip. I dont know what to do for the best

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avenanap · 19/03/2008 17:33

Ok. What can the teacher do to help? when is the bullying taking place (lunch time, play time?)

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SparklyGothKat · 19/03/2008 17:35

the teacher said that it must be happening at breaktimes, or very underhanded in class

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avenanap · 19/03/2008 17:36

What does ds say?

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SparklyGothKat · 19/03/2008 17:37

he won;t talk about it much, he just keeps crying. dh is talking to him about the benifits of HE now

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avenanap · 19/03/2008 17:41

Ok. You need to ask the teacher to keep ds in at play time. You shouldn't have to do this, it does not teach the bullies but at least it is keeping him out of harms way. I have a book, the unwritten rules of friendship that is designed to help children that are socially excluded from their peers for one reason or another, I recommend that you find a copy and give it a read. It's easy to identify behaviour that children have that makes them a target and it gives strategies on how to help. Is the teacher willing to help?

Julienoshoes · 19/03/2008 19:33

I'm in a rush as we have guests.
I'll come back later-but just wanted to say, I agree with muminscotland, have a look at the main HE websites first.
We have a thread here to tell you how to find other home educators and one about books on HE.

Please just note though, you don't have to follow the NC when you home educate and you don't have to inform the LA-although you may choose to do either or both.

Some people choose to follow the NC when the plan is to send the child back to school-but equally many people choose not to be restricted by following the NC and follow the children's interests and learn through living life whist they are at home.

In my experience, these children are often found to be in front of their peers when they go back into school-especially the bright ones. When you are following a child's interests, there is no stopping them!

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SparklyGothKat · 19/03/2008 23:22

Ok the plan is...

We are going to HE starting as soon as possible. I need to speak to the education dept and some people I know that I know HE and then go from there. We know now we made a huge mistake moving the children to that school. Its not the best in the area and is in a 'deprived area' but it was the only one we could get them into when we moved. I can't believe how unhappy a bad school can make a child. I never thought I would see Ds1 so unhappy about school as he loved school.

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SparklyGothKat · 20/03/2008 00:10

Not sure what to do tomorrow tho, its their last day before the easter holidays, DH wants to keep him at home, I think we need to talk to the school. Ov. if they can sort this out and DS1 is happy again, I would keep him in school. Oh I feel so crappy, I don;t know what to do...

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AMumInScotland · 21/03/2008 16:30

How's it going SparklyGothKat? Have you made any decisions yet?

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