"I would absolutely advise you against HE your son!"

[Yurtgirl]

I would value your opinions about something a Health Visitor said to me today

We were discussing how I can best help my ds who is 5 - he has aspergers (I also have dd who is 2) Recently I have been wondering about HE . I mentioned that I had been wondering to health visitor who said

"I would absolutely advise you against HE your son"

I didnt know how to react to that one. I should add that I am a single parent living in a semi rural area and I dont drive (so obviously a few extra difficulties there - But I dont think that justifies what she said)

What do you think?

At my children's school they finish at
12.45 p.m. until they're 6/7 when they finish at 1 p.m. then add an afternoon a year till they're 11 and finally doing five full days. their holidays are MUCH longer than other schools. Parents help with cleaning, covering teacher absence and a myriad other chores including endless fundraising. You will also be judged for allowing your children to watch TV, films, listen to pop music and go on the computer. However, if you can rise above all this, the kids are generally very happy there...

yurtgirl, are you in wales? not south wales by chance?

steinermum-am also, technically, a steinermum. second generation...which school are yours at? ds is at cardiff

Mine are at the Islington school in N. London.
It's only been going since 1996 so is much less established than some of the others

I would totally ignore her. She probably means well.

Unless she has first hand experience of home educating your son and being you, she has no business advising after all.

oooh i was at your xmas fair

i bought up all the felt

Fillyjonk, are you busy making little gnomes then? Steiner Schools are overrun with them...

lol

ds has a bit of a gnomes fixation

i find them a bit terrifying and sinister

oh i went to a steiner kindergarten too btw

So what ARE you doing with the felt?

I know two families who dc's have Aspergers and they decided to HE because they couldn't cope in the school enviroment and both became suicidal (the dc's).
HE seems to very successful for them and others because their education can be tailored to individual needs.

With my limited experience,
"I would absolutely advise you to consider you HE your son"

lol

atm am making felt beads

it was too good a bargain to ignore

aaargh bargains, bane of my life

Thankyou for all the advice - I appreciate it.
I have decided not to HE unless ds starts experiencing problems in school
I am going to try and get hold of books about HE though and become more informed!!

I think it's great to have a back-up plan if school goes pear-shaped, will make you less anxious. You might strike really lucky with the school, who knows unless you try. Lots of love and luck to you xx

Yurtgirl

Does your DS have a Statement of special needs in place with regards to his schooling?.

He may be fine at present but things can all too quickly change to his detriment, particularly when going into a junior school.

I would go all out to obtain such a legally binding document should you decide to keep him in school.