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Home educated children are more socially adept than schooled children?

37 replies

HomeEd · 21/12/2006 10:54

Following on from issues raised in another thread, (and understanding that some children are naturally more sociable than others), what do you think on balance?

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SueW · 22/12/2006 19:44

Educators don't teach anyone. They educate them.

fizzbuzz · 22/12/2006 20:01

I will second martianbishop. I love the kids I teach, they are, as she says a joy really. Also very little crowd control in my school, but lots of bright motivated kids.

HowTheFillyjonkStoleChristmas · 22/12/2006 20:08

ROFL at this thread

ah, they bit, they bit...

SueBaroo · 22/12/2006 20:15

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whatwouldjesusdo · 22/12/2006 20:26

my family is v socially inept, and the only social eptness that I picked up, came from school.

My ex is extremely sociable, and so are my (partly home ed'ed) children.

make of that what you will.

Mehetabel · 31/12/2006 12:49

On balance, I would agree that in my experience home educated children do come across better in a social situation than the majority of children I have met who have been school educated.

I have been home educating for many years (21!) and have met thousands of HE children, and I have childminded for many years and have run childrens groups so I have also met thousands of schooled children. I do notice a difference.

Home educated children tend to conform less to societal norms when younger, ie, they don't learn to sit still and be quiet as young as schooled children, and so in the early years up to around 7 or 8 they can appear less mature and less well behaved. However I believe that they catch up and overtake in their later years, say by about 11, when they often appear much more confident, self directed and mature than schooled children. And of course whilst they might not know how to sit still and wait patiently they haven't lost their enthusiasm and desire to learn in the same process

I have had many many favourable comments on my children and on home educated children in general, in fact last week I had someone say to me that as a warden on a nature reserve he found a huge difference between the home ed groups and the schooled groups he took around. He described it as the home edded children were interested and asked pertinant questions whereas he felt the schooled children were somehow "switched off".

I have noticed this with the children I childminded, they are alive, full of fun and learning when with us full time pre-school, then as they go to school and come to us after school I watch them go quieter, less confident and sadder :-( It feels such a shame.

Judy1234 · 31/12/2006 13:00

If you want to be provocative what about private school children being much more socially ept. I've seen it all the time. It's a massive difference. Worth paying for. Their English is better too and they don't mumble.

notanotter · 31/12/2006 13:09

sadly i do believe that xenia

where i like - despite the comprehensive school being in the top 20 comps ( non selective) a lot send their children private
academically both schools produce the same results
socially the difference is tangible by age 14

juuule · 31/12/2006 13:09

I think it depends on a lot of factors how socially adept a child is. Whether they are at school or not is just one of those factors. I don't think you could say that home-ed or otherwise is a sole indicator of whether a child would be socially adept.

notanotter · 31/12/2006 13:11

where i live

Judy1234 · 31/12/2006 13:13

In fact you can make your child much more socially adept by keeping it out of a bad comprehensive at home because then it's more likely to have your language and grammar and be taught manners by you without bad influence by peers.

I meet loads of 20 ish year olds of all kinds because of having 3 children that age but the ones who went to goo private schools look me in the eye, shake my hand without any awkwardness and know to refer to me as Mrs X and have the ability to make appropriate small talk with a woman in her 40s. I don't find that with some from the state schools.

tiredemma · 31/12/2006 13:33

Xenia, Looking someone in the eye and shaking their hand as you introduce yourself is quite simply a mix of good manners and confidence, it is not exclusive to privately educated children.

Dp is privately educated and is really no better educated than I. In fact, in certain areas he is piss poor, what a waste of money.

With regards to Home ed, I would not ever have the ability to educate my children to the same level that they are taught at school. Plus quite frankly, it would bore me.

But thats just me, hats off to those that can home ed - not everyone is in a position to do so.

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