Just seeking some advice. My son has messed up his first year at university. He admits too much partying not enough revision. He has failed most of his exams so is having to re-sit next week. I have had a constant battle with him one minute he has it under control and has a plan for revision and the next he literally falls to pieces crying even saying its all too much. He says he does want to stay on at university and desperately wants to continue to year 2. He tells me the first year has been really hard but he never sought any help from his tutor. I don't know why. He feels terribly, saying his life his over. I am so full of anxiety. The first thing I think about when I wake is this, I have lost nearly a stone in weight during the last 3 weeks, I cannot focus or concentrate at work, just doing what is necessary. Cannot wait for bedtime every night is my only respite. I am feeling my son's pain every inch of the way and it is unbearable. I have tried to be understanding and supportive but we keep having the same conversation each day about how he is going to do his best but he says his best will not be good enough. He has gone to stay with his father for the last few days, a change of scenery and I think to get away from the terrible atmosphere in this house. I don't know what to do if in fact I can do anything at all. Is it natural to feel this much pain for him? Also more importantly will the university end his studies or would they give him another chance? Should he/me be calling the university now to ask what his options are if any or should he wait until after his resits? I don't know which way to turn. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.