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I'm a Muslim, but I won't wear the niqab

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MumsnetGuestBlogs · 23/10/2013 11:57

Of all the things we get heated about where Islam’s concerned, it amazes me that a piece of cloth is the subject of such passion and debate.

Recently, British judges had to decide whether a woman giving evidence in court should be required to show her face; and a Birmingham college ignited controversy when it requested students remove all hoodies, hats, caps and veils while on the premises so they were easily identifiable. While David Cameron held that educational institutions should be able to "set and enforce their own school uniform policies", Nick Clegg claimed the bar had to be set "very high" to justify any prohibition on wearing a veil. Why is this piece of cloth so potent? Because it’s a religious requirement of course. But is it?

Veiling is a pre-Islamic cultural tradition that takes the form of hijab (covering the hair), burka, or niqab (covering the entire body and face). Used to differentiate between free and enslaved women, it was a socio-economic practice said to protect a woman’s modesty and safeguard the honour of her male relatives.

When I began researching Islam I was struck by its attempts to confer rights and protections on the vulnerable in a barbaric tribal society. Suddenly it wasn’t OK to bury your baby alive because she was a girl. Suddenly women had a voice; marriage was no longer about "status" but a "contract", in which the woman's consent was imperative. They gained rights to inheritance, education and security. Islam sought to solidify women’s financial independence and push back patriarchy. There’s no mention in the Qur’an of the need to keep hair covered and the idea is starkly at odds with the thrust of the above.

My research led to my subsequent conversion (more on that here), and while I was prepared to accept the obligation to cover, I didn’t find evidence to support it. Thinking I must have missed something obvious, I looked harder. Ten years on I’m still looking.

The hijab, burka or niqab – let’s just call it covering – has become the poster-child for today’s Islam. An entire industry surrounds it. Buy into it and you get a special name, ‘hijabi’, and myriad style options to suit whatever look you rock, whether it’s ‘top-of-the-heap pious’ (plain and austere), ‘trendy’ (fuscia-tinted leopard skin) or ‘ethnic free-spirit’ (tie-dyed, beaded). For all those who claim it frees them from society’s shallow preoccupation with appearance, there are an awful lot of websites, magazines and boutiques devoted to it. And for those claiming it’s an expression of autonomy, there’s nothing independent or self-directed about following the crowd.

Still, no need to wrestle with slippery definitions and messy implications when you can slip into the straitjacket of a readymade identity (coincidentally held out for you by centuries of male superiority, enthusiastically endorsed by extremists everywhere) and reassure yourself you’re part of the sisterhood – muslimahs doing it for themselves!

But are they? Can covering really be empowering when it supports the patriarchal view of women as mere receptacles for male status and honour?

As a white, unveiled convert I’ve seen what’s on both sides of the veil: superiority from covered ‘sisters’ who stoop to personal insults when I try to further my understanding, and arrogance from those who assume from my skin-colour I’m kaffir (an unbeliever). I don’t think anyone’s taken in by the idea that headwear is a direct representation of your level of modesty.

The older generation can claim social conditioning, but the rest? In this information age they persist in propagating the lie that covering is a religious obligation, making claims unsubstantiated by Islam’s primary religious text. The result? An entire set of beliefs reduced to empty symbolism and political posturing.

The word hijab means curtain, partition or screen, and occurs eight times in the Qur’an. In none of those is it used in the sense conventionally understood among Muslims to refer to a piece of cloth covering the head. There are metaphorical references to a barrier dividing inhabitants of Paradise and Hell, or the way God communicates with mankind – through revelation or from behind a veil (think ‘burning bush’ in Joseph and the Technicolour Dreamcoat) - but nothing about the shamefulness of female follicles.

The verse cited as the revelation regarding covering (the hijab verse) is 33.53.

“O ye who believe! Enter not the dwellings of the Prophet for a meal without waiting for the proper time, unless permission be granted you. But if ye are invited, enter, and, when your meal is ended, then disperse. Linger not for conversation. Lo! that would cause annoyance to the Prophet, and he would be shy of (asking) you (to go); but Allah is not shy of the truth. And when ye ask of them (the wives of the Prophet) anything, ask it of them from behind a curtain. That is purer for your hearts and for their hearts.”

Depending on which translation you read (Assad, Pickthall and Ali are reliable but there are others, distributed extensively, often for free, whose wording is compromised by their aggressive Wahhabi bias - sadly, tweaking the Quran here and there to bolster an ideology is not a leap too far for some) it’s obvious the passage concerns specific people, in a specific situation, in a specific time. Quite simply, it asks visitors to the prophet’s home not to outstay their welcome and to respect the privacy of the inhabitants. No mention of women’s haberdashery. Just... none.

Two verses in the Qur’an refer to dress, (24:31 & 33:59) but their discussion of form is general and vague. What is clear is that the objective of modesty is incumbent upon everyone, not just women. By ignoring the requirement for both sexes to dress modestly, and to lower their gaze from the inappropriate, the hijabi brigade lays the burden of moral responsibility exclusively on women everywhere.

By supporting the patriarchal assertion that women are shameful and inadequate unless they conform to a cultural tradition totally absent from the Qur’an, they subject all women to male scrutiny; a direct inversion of what the Qur’an seeks to end. But hey, women everywhere have been subverting one another to secure male approval for like, EVER – it’s a girl thing, right?

We’ve ascertained covering is a restrictive, divisive practice with origins in murky misogyny, unsanctioned by Islam’s central text and irreconcilable to the essence of the faith.

Instead of debating whether it should be banned, which lends it a legitimacy it lacks and stokes the flames of righteous indignation, the question we should be asking is ‘why protect this practice?’

In a secular country where the separation of church and state is recognised as a bulwark of equality and social cohesion, what grounds are there for a small minority who validate their personal choice with a fallacy of religious obligation, insisting it earns them the right to special treatment?

If security checks, testifying in court or job requirements trump your personal views then ‘suck it up, Buttercup’. These structures exist to serve the needs of the wider community, which is exactly what Islam set out to protect. It’s time to expose the veil for what it is: a manifestation of misogyny, a symbol of status - NOT a religious requirement.

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defuse · 24/10/2013 15:08

Numpty, the muslim declaration of submission translates to ' there is no god but Allah and muhammed is His messenger.' You must believe in muhammed too.
It doesnt make it shirk.

nicename · 24/10/2013 15:27

. (Sorry duff screen hides previous posts)

NeoFaust · 24/10/2013 15:42

worldgonecrazy

Theologically, the response to your question would be that God wishes humans to possess free will. If we had clear evidence of the existence of a (judgemental) God, it would be fundamentally irrational to live in any fashion than a godly life. Being 'bad' would be impossible so being 'good' would have no value.

By maintaining mystery it permits humans to have a choice as to how to behave. The wars and prejudice are a product of the freedom we possess to be other than good.

I'm an atheist by the way, theology is just a game for me.

zeddybrek · 24/10/2013 18:02

Great article. And it would be nice if everyone could remember there are 1.6 billion muslims in the world so of course there will be large variances in what people interpret. Especially when we're talking about 1 book revealed at a time when things were very different. Open dialogue and discussion is what we need more of.

wetaugust · 24/10/2013 19:56

Goodness! Just watched Jasmine Alibai-Brown on C4 News debating this issue - she was very vehement in her dislike of the practice. Accused the niqab-wearers of virtually betraying the freedoms their mothers fought to get.

Good for her.

alemci · 24/10/2013 20:00

glad I'm a Christian and feel free. to me islam is very legalistic and it is refreshing to read another perspective.

defuse · 24/10/2013 20:05

Yes, we all know that there is a difference in interpretation. However, the article is not so much an open discussion - the closing statements are more in tune with DM's stance. Had the piece said hijab is not for me, thats fine, each to their own, but it actually attacks womenwho wear it for religious reasons as somehow being status seeking, piety grade seeking fashionistas, who cannot see misogyny for what it is. It is insulting to those women and implying that they are stupid. Thats not very supportive of the muslimahs who are truly 'doing it for themselves'.

YouSayPotato · 24/10/2013 20:06

Ayshah reported that Asma' the daughter of Abu Bakr came to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) while wearing thin clothing. He approached her and said: 'O Asma'! When a girl reaches the menstrual age, it is not properthat anything should remain exposed except this and this. He pointed to theface and hands."[Abu Dawud]

This clearly states covering the head.
As someone upthread stated, islam involves believing in the quran and believing prophet mohammad pbuh is him last messenger. His way of life, his sayings and actions are sunnah, which means a good muslim follows the things mohammad pbuh said and did.

Being a muslim is not just about reading the quran, it also involves following mohammads pbuh "sayings" as well. You cannot follow quran and but not the sunnah. When muslims convert, they recite thry believe in Allah and his prophet mohammad pbuh. So there is no question of whether his sayings or actions are less important or not relevant.

May I also state that where things that are ambigious in the quran, one should look at what the prophet said or recommmended in yhese situations. All these sayings have been verified by tracing them back over time untill they taillied up directly to the prophet.

Allah also said that non believers will not believe in islam even if the truth is given to them black and white....so even if Allah said hijab is important in the wuran, there still woukd be ppl who wouldnt believe it and try to pick in to shreds.....thought I would throw that in!

YouSayPotato · 24/10/2013 20:09

Where is nailak? She is usually very informative

kiriwAnyFuckerwa · 24/10/2013 20:49

You can argue back and forth about the qur'an but it seems to me that what is clear is that Muslim women should cover their heads. Great, everyone does. It's a way of being devout while also being able to participate in society.

The niqab cuts you off. It means no one's going to invite you for coffee after school drop off. It means you can't have a cake at the school fete. It cuts you off from the avenues that most parents have for friends or support essentially.

I can't understand why any woman would choose to isolate herself to that degree

defuse · 24/10/2013 21:03

“bring your veil over your chest” means cover your boobs to me; unless you have a hairy chest I don’t see how you can make the leap to hair and head-covering.

because implicit in the quranic verse is the understanding that women were already expected to veil. However, unlike the practice at the time of leaving the scarf hanging down the back with the neck and cleavage exposed, Muslim women were to take it one step further and draw the veil over the neck and cleavage area.

Those who argue that the Qur'an says nothing about veiling are completely misreading this verse. Not only does the Qur'anic text make it clear that women are expected to veil, it also dictates the extent of the veiling, i.e., covering the neck and cleavage.

This point is elucidated by reports from Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, and other women of the Sahaba, who immediately implemented this verse by tearing up pieces of cloth and covering their hair and bodies.

I have taken this evidence from a website but cannot track which one, to reference.

nicename · 24/10/2013 21:06

I've think I've just had an epiphany.

I was thinking about all the different interpretations about: cover, not to cover, partial cover, etc and I just thought about the shopping list threads around here. Ok, so it's not serious but everyone has an opinion of the list writer and their plans/activities, and everyone thinks they are right.

If it was unambiguous then all islamic countries would have the same rules regarding dress.

I saw two (aran) women today swathed in black. One had black lace sewn all down the black sleeves, the other had tiny chrystal beads sewn along the seams. Another arab girl wore a scarf covering her head to the shoulders with her well made-up face showing, over a thigh high belted raincoat and leggings (and Uggs). Earlier in the day I passed a British muslim women in the whole shibang (face veil, baggy black robes to the ground) going into an office (on the phone so I heard her cockney accent).

There is no single 'right' answer here.

wetaugust · 24/10/2013 21:53

What you quoted about a girl approaching menstruation is not patrt of the Qur'an.

It's Haddith - someone's intrepretation of the Qur'an.

And interpretations can vary.

garlicfucker · 24/10/2013 21:59

I think you're all bonkers Grin I know, unhelpful! I may not be au fait with the ins and outs of shariah, but I know a hell of a lot about fashion. In the 13th century (CE) European women and Arab women wore very similar outfits, the Arab dresses tending to have more embroidered and fitted bodices. Some of our nuns still wear the customary dress of 1200. The rail, barbette, and wimple form a close-fitting head wrap, with loose fabric down the back of the head and wrappings from chest to chin.

Over the following century, both Europeans and Arabs shrank the head dress while making it more prominent. This effectively led to big, complex hats while the neck & chest went uncovered. Some styles added a sheer veil, as a nod to the traditional - this is our traditional wedding dress.

It looks to me very much as though the Arab clerics (men, of course) felt the women were being a bit uppity by showing off their hats & jewellery, instead of wrapping themselves up like they did in the good old days - this wasn't confined to the Middle East; Christian clerics made exactly the same fuss. It seems the muslims were more successful than the christians in controlling what women wore ... and went the whole hog by telling them to cover their faces as well. That'll learn 'em!

Here's a picture from a contemporary bible (Polish, I think?) showing European women's dress from 1100 to 1300, going from left to right. These were not wealthy women; more business class. The rich ones had gold thread, jewels in the seams, metal headwear, and so on.

garlicfucker · 24/10/2013 22:08

The European rail and wimple were always white. AFAIK, there wasn't a colour code in the Middle East although blue seems to have been popular. I wonder why the Muslim clerics preferred black? Does anybody know?

taffleee · 24/10/2013 22:50

Basics - I'm not getting into the 'intellectual' debate that seems to have taken over this thread, but what has happened here?? This is Britain, we are a small island, there is no integration because the government has allowed religion to segregate our country, allowing people from various countries to dominate small towns, even streets.

And how are we as a small island going to stop hundreds, even thousands of years of wars that has happened in their own countries here? We have invited their wars on our shores, and it is a religious war, which there will be no winners, because you can never change someone's beliefs, whether you think right or wrong.

So what is the answer? Giving separate religious schools, areas, laws?? Why?? This is Britain, we need to be Britain, and proud to be British. We are a great country here, what's the answer then??

GeekLovesANYFUCKER · 24/10/2013 23:02

It could be that segregation occurs when people don't feel safe in mainstream society so seek to find like with like. We can all do our bit to help integration and it is really not helped by DM doom mongers who aim to spread fear and loathing of difference.
Having said that we can change opinion when we come together. Such as the fall out following the random murder of a pensioner coming back from Friday prayers lead to the EDL condemming such and act and Tommy Robinson relinquishing his role as head of the EDL.

When it comes to gender relations we must bear in mind that ownership of women's minds and bodies is not solely a Muslim or an Asian thing. We must do our bit to speak to those who are different and to break down the barriers of gender apartied.

taffleee · 24/10/2013 23:19

Geek sorry, but when does the 'little man' have a say - stop the psychobabble and put in laymans terms, how do we all get along in such a small island?

garlicfucker · 24/10/2013 23:33

That was a rude reply, taff Confused Geek didn't post any psychobabble.

We get along the way we always have. We are an extremely adaptable nation. Brilliant evidence of that: chicken tikka masala is our favourite dish. There's also the fact that English is made up of French, German, Danish and Latin words (previous invaders) with a small handful coming from the old languages. Any high street has an Italian, Chinese, American and Indian restaurant. Most English people know about diwali and eid. Most English people know some reggae songs. There's no such thing as 'pure british' DNA.

I could go on, but I won't. Adaptability's always been our greatest strength. It perhaps hasn't been a strength of certain other cultures, and perhaps this makes them highly resistant to assimilation. But they're here, living on our adaptable island, and they will not be able to resist, because our style is to give way and reform.

By thinking in terms of "Them" and "their wars", you slow this process down. Be more British! Welcome everyone, borrow something, lend something, and Bob's your uncle (and Sunila's your aunty) :)

taffleee · 24/10/2013 23:44

garlic didnt mean to be rude, apologies to you and geek

Being British has always meant being part of a multi-cultural society?? I'm not entering in to an intellectual debate, because obviously you'd win, i'm all for multi-culturalism, but that also means not separative religious schools, areas and integration for all, not allowing certain minorities to dominate certain areas?

If i'm wrong forgive me?

garlicfucker · 25/10/2013 00:32

I'm not sure about 'allowing'. For instance we have Catholic schools, Jewish schools and Anglican schools.

We had a long-standing set of policies designed to prevent 'ghettoisation', where you get areas becoming entirely populated by people of one group/culture. These policies were unpopular because they sometimes meant people couldn't live where they wanted; I think they were quietly abandoned under Thatcher. Personally, I'm in favour of low-key management policies like this. We all get on better with folks who seem different when we come into daily contact; this works both ways, of course. Humans are more alike than different; sometimes we have to be pushed to re-discover this about our neighbours.

Political management notwithstanding, we can all do our little bit to help integration along. A very small start is to simply stop "othering" people by referring to them as Them. No group of humans is a homogenous mass - it's a collection of individuals.

garlicfucker · 25/10/2013 00:33

... This has gone off-topic now. Apols to all. I felt you deserved a courteous reply, though, taff.

taffleee · 25/10/2013 01:07

psychobable garlic its this sort of drivvle that stops a society being integrated - 'low key management' does not work, our society is proving that now - i have no idea where you live, but you need to stop trying to be so 'clever' and maybe come up with a 'solution'??

if not , shhhhhhhhhhh! lol

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taffleee · 25/10/2013 01:26

And when I say 'us' I mean every 'British' person, no matter what religion, background, country - you come to live here, you are a British person - we are a great country - We should be proud of that, not afraid to say so