I'm not actually a Grandma but this is the nearest I could get to what I wanted to post! I have a niece who I'm very fond of, but due to distance, illness, covid etc I haven't seen her for almost six years and she now has a 5 year old daughter. At last she was able to visit me this weekend and it was so lovely to see her and our new little member of the family. Whilst we were chatting and making a cuppa, her little girl picked up an ornament from my sideboard, scraped it across the top, broke it and scratched the top of the sideboard. There was a very weak "of dear, do you want me to get that polished or something" from my niece but I made light of it as I didn't want to spoil this first visit. They later headed off to the beach and came back with a beautiful bouquet of flowers for me. My niece said they were very sandy so we headed off for the bathroom and I showed her how to work the shower and gave her a large towel. Thought no more of it. They went home quite late and I was exhausted! This morning when I went in the bathroom, the shower tray was covered in sand and dirty footprints. I looked for the towel and eventually found it (very damp and full of sand) under a cushion on one of my armchairs. I have chronic arthritis in my spine and doing things at floor level is virtually impossible for me so I really struggled cleaning the shower and also picking up all the bits of paper that had been torn out of a spiral bound colouring book and just left on my lounge floor. I do keep a clean and tidy home and I accept that I'm able to do that as I have no grandchildren and rarely have youngsters in my home. But surely clearing up if you or your children have made a mess is a given? I know I would have been horrified if my own kids had broken or damaged in someone else's home. And now she's asked if they can come again but stay over, yikes, I'm quaking in my boots😁- should I just accept that if I want to see them I have to be prepared for the fallout?