My 3 children are so diverse! Can anyone relate to this?

[lagaanisace]

My first, now nearly six, used 30 words at 12 months, 173 words at 15.5 months and could read entirely independently in reception despite being the youngest starter. He's on the G&T register.

My second, just turned 4, is a captivatingly affectionate soul who walked at 26 months, began to talk slowly at 30 months and is about to be assessed for a statement.

No.3 (10 months) is a smiley sweetheart who puts up with so much from her very boisterous big brothers.

They're an exhausting three, but there's a lot of affection between them.

Its funny actually that after DS2 lost all his speech and it took so very very long to get any back you would think that I would have watched DDs developing speech like a hawk. Yet once she started babbling 'normally' I was fine and uncincerned and can't remember any of it.
I can remember the first time she said 'fuck' though and

If my DC1 could say 150+ words at 15.5 months old I'd be counting 'em , too!! Why do you lot thing that's weird? Sounds very normal behaviour with an eldest or only child.

But alas, none of mine could speak that well.
I've had a depressing afternoon with DS2 (4yo) curled up on the sofa alseep with high fever I suspect he has a UTI while his little classmate (exactly the same age) played with me and DS3. The thing is, the little friend speaks crystal clear, I could converse with him easily and about everything while I can barely understand half of what DS2 says .

Laga-whatever: I think there are people on MN with severely disabled dc and g&t kids, and even kids who are both SN and G&T at the same time: those are greater contrasts than you are encountering, even.

Don't be mean (although exacly 173 words at exactly 15.5 months is a weird thing to know/statement to make)

Mine are utterly different in every way. they like different stuff. they wear different things. their friends are very different. they eat different things. academically DD1 is averagely bright but incredibly focused and dilligent so dose very well. DD2 is very very bright but won't work at all so level/grades are much much lower.

they are very different people and it is frustrating, confusing and a delight.

i;ve forgotten what DDs first word was , after all the angsting.

DSs was duck.

i think

My goodness, folks! If ever there was a cure for mumsnetting!!!

For the record, yeah he was my first and I spent one evening writing down all the words he could say. Mum did that for me and suggested I do the same, but I think I could say a fairly average number.

Most of my postings have been on the special needs forums - I've had a lot of kind and positive feedback there and I've really appreciated it. My son is about to go through the statementing process and as a lay person it's quite dizzying. He'll start school in January and I admit I'm nervous for him.

I realise there are families much more diverse than ours. I suppose it's from them I was hoping to hear. I'm always glad of words of wisdom.

G&T specifics always bring out the worst in us. it's just jealousy you know.

Oh no. I'm not jealous. Not any more. My DD is now classed as G&T. So there.

Seems a bit odd to me but there we are.

lagaanisace - my apologies for being grumpy earlier on in this thread - I blame it on a nasty bug I have at the moment, I am just feeling generally miserable. No excuse to be rude to you though.

A word of advice to you - if your household income is above 30k 50k £100k, do not ever, ever admit to it on here. This thread will be nothing compared to the flaming you would get!

op, I think the problem with your thread was, that it is difficult to see why you posted it....i.e. what did you want to achieve...iykwim....

but yeah, to post on g&t makes you as vulnurable to attacks as posting on AIBU....

I just thought people would read it an think, "lol, yeah, our house is like that,too!". When you're a mum of more than one, I think it's easy to be paranoid about whether you're doing the very best for each child individually. I found that feeling was at it's very worse when I went from 1 to 2. Having my 3rd hasn't been as bad that way. But I did wonder how others coped with that particular SEN/G&T 2-way tug.

Rindercella, lol, definitely nothing to declare with regard to our household income! We've decided it would be lovely to 'holiday at home' and enjoy what's in our locality this year, if that's any indication...

I counted how many words DS could say at about 18 months. It was about 50 not not very remarkable! I think it's normal pfb-parent behaviour though

I meant so not very remarkable

One day I will learn to use that preview thing.

see...if you said that in the first instance people would have been nice...

like I said though...and I suppose we agree on that ...all children are so different....

only talked about this earlier at uni, too....we were talking about personality (well lecture was about it ) and I mentioned to my neighbour, a father, that personality is the very reason why I am unable to treat my children the same....i.e. the "rules" apply...but they are so different, with different needs, it would be horrible to treat them the same....and of course we also have to look at ourselfs and examine and reflect on our feelings towards each child in order to pick up on things we could do better...but, I don't think you can treat all your kids the same as such...iykwim...
my children don't quite range as much as yours in ability's....they are just well completely different....although es and ys are spitting images of eachother, lookswise they are like twins born 8 years apart....

muffle, while you're on, could you tell me why son and daughter are abbreviated to DS and DD, and if there's a number afterwards, is that their age or birth number? I'm quite new, and being, like most on mnet, sleep deprived, I can't work it out.

All of my children are quite startling geniuses. Next door's are all cabbages, but then they don't eat organic.

DS1 means first son, DD2 means second daughter etc. Though sometimes people do think it means the age and you get DS14 etc - that always makes me do a double take!

The first D stands for dear or darling - it's a strange web forum convention (not just on MN)... I don't know where it came from.

(When discussing their DH (dear husband) or DP (dear partner) people sometimes leave the D off to show they are pissed off with him...)

There is a guide to MN acronyms somewhere on here

People sometimes think my two boys are twins although there are 21 months between them.

Anyway, yeah then there's the whole girl/boy thing which I'd always dismissed a little (social conditioning, etc) but I can already see my youngest's feminine side emerging.

She's feisty, though. My middle child, due to behavioural uniquenesses doesn't realise he's hurting her when he pokes her fiercely in the eye. DD has started trying to do it back! She's not quite on target yet, but when she manages it it may teach him something I never could. Well, anyway, here's hoping...

My MIL is hot on treating them 'the same'. How on earth is this possible?

oh 21 month is the agegap I had between ds2 and 3....intelligent wise they are on level...e. youngest is where ms was at the age....personality totally different, lol...

I would have thought most people's DCs were very different-it isn't a good idea to compare.

To be honest, my middle child has locked-in behaviours that are very absorbing of my time (the latest is poo daubing, although this is mercifully occasional as yet) and my 10 month old is naturally quite demanding of my time. The result is that I tend to allow my eldest to coast along, knowing he's doing fine.

I do try to address it, but I know it's not good enough.

Oh, and thanks, muffle. I get it now!