ds wasn't doing too badly at his old school until a new head bought (sp?) it. The new head is a devout catholic, which is fine, ds accepts this although he does not believe in god, he knows that other people are entitled to their own opinions and views. However, the head has sought fit to put RE on the curriculum. This was fine by me until I had a chat with ds and discovered the head had gone around the class asking what faith the children are. Later RE classes involved the head telling the children that they should worship god and there is no other, god made the universe etc. ds (ds does not believe in god and has become a Jedi), popped his hand up and asked where all the other faiths fit in and was promptly told to shut up as the head was teaching the class. I didn't quite believe ds at first until I had a chat with other parents and the head. He has told me that ds is too opinionated amongst other things. He doesn't like one parent families and has made this very clear to me, that I am failing my son has he does not have a permanent role model.
To be honest with you, I'm not sure what's been going on at the school. Other parents have told me that their children have told them that ds is told off all the time for little things when others are not, ds has also said this to me. His teacher has always said that ds does not cause any problems in class (but he does need to take others views into account which we are working on). He's not disruptive, he puts his hand up and he contributes and he listens.
I think he's socially behind, he can be silly outside class (I have seen him with other boys from the old school and he behaves the same as they do.) He does backtalk, I'm trying to stop this but he feels that he has to get his point across because he want to explain why he has done something. The new school know about this as I have told them. I'm not expecting people to bend over backwards to accomodate him, I do however, need to make sure he gets support from school, academic and pastoral, so that he can grow to be a nice person. He wasn't getting the support he needed to do this. The tellings off and the discipline was inconsistant, ds was permanently removed from a club for laughing (with another child) at another child who was rolling around on the floor, the other children were allowed to stay (I was outside and heard everything). He picked up on this and could see that it was unfair. I do expect ds to conform to rules, it's part of life but I don't think how things like this help him, they just cause more problems. If you have any ideas how I can enourage ds to know his place as a child and not see himself as having equal status as adults I would be very grateful. Please.
Choosy: The choir's a great idea. I'll look into that. He can sing but doesn't have alot of faith in himself. The lunches are included in the fees. I'm going to look for a job that pay's me more money.