ds1 under SEN now for G and T. As it is impacting his mental health.

[Piffle]

ds1 is yr9 and very very g+t in all subjects ( bar PE lol)
has had a meltdown at school failing to motivated and he has been teased by another kid for being such a boffin- actually the term is tangoed? Face slapped. Ds1 flipped into rage was pulled off kid and calmed down and then dissolved into sobbing mess. Undermining himself. Revealing a perfection complex but he is in bits as he cannot get motivated to try harder as work not challenging enough.
I hve explained to him before that he just has to get on and do it. Not realizing that he had perfectionist complex and slowly he has been declining. Hence snapping like that. V out of character he is master of control of emotion.
school have referred him to mental health team as he is saying he is crap and a failure. No idea why as his marks are mega good. No pressure from home do long as he is happy I do not care what his marks are
am rambling here but school ( v good grammar) say they are using SEN budget and resources to assist him achieve more. This may mean moving up a year is some subjects and taking gcses early. He is already doing some in yr10.
have had good talk to him and he is feeling better.
He now feels guilty about taking SEN resources though.
Any thoughts about this as I know many seriously G+t kids do fall under SEN. But also feel that had he not shown his emotions that day... Nothing would be changing.
am bit um er about things.

This came out of blue btw I thought ds1 was happiest he'd ever been atm
that has thrown me sideways tbh

sorry to hear this piffle

he always sounds like a lovely boy

thanks enid
yes he is a true beauty of the world, a very special lad.
He has happily swanned off to school today humming because YIPPEE it's SATS week and he loves tests [freak]

Who'd be gifted huh really...
Am finding out such interesting things about my boy atm
and I thought 2 yr olds were complicated...

I'm sorry that your son is having such a bad time.

The SEN budget is for special educational needs, not just to pay for extra attention for low ablity children.

It is quite reasonable for children to be on both the G and T and the SEN registers of a school in certain circumstances. A child who is anorexic or regularly cuts themselves might need one to one supervision at lunch time, even if they are predicted straight A*.

Some children with very severe SEN can reach extremely high academic standards. For example there is a boarding school in Newbury for profoundly deaf children who are also academically gifted.

A good school supports all its children.

At grammar the SEN dept will often support children that would go under the radar elsewhere, because they don't have such a wide range of needs competing for attention or simply the numbers needing their services. Their funding is exactly for boys like your ds when they have a difficulty.

And what is it about boys relishing tests? Some yr 9 have a real excitement about them this week.

How is he piffle? Is he still enjoying the SATs?

thanks for further comments. He did enjoy his SATS lots.
He had talk to mental health chap on Friday and is not saying much except he is nice and easy to talk to.
he has been on a website/chat for gifted kids and has found some identical souls which makes him feel better about things.
the school have been nothing short of amazing thus far. Teachers stopping in the corridors touching him on the shoulder and smiling at him in a supportive way.
makes me cry.