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Cancer support thread 90 - still the best threads no one wants to be on

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LemonDrizzle10 · 14/09/2023 08:07

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Octopus45 · 22/10/2023 15:01

Thanks. My Son is taking him in a bit, he likes to take him sometimes. I love walking normally (will be walking into town to meet my friend. Here is a picture of him. Sometimes my Son likes taking him out, he doesn't know I'm upset.

Will try and attach a picture of him now.

Cancer support thread 90 - still the best threads no one wants to be on
Silkiebunny · 22/10/2023 15:05

Yes animals can help a lot. I bought this lovely Floof in chemo and he has been great. Nice dog pic Octopus. Floof with cake and being nosy

Cancer support thread 90 - still the best threads no one wants to be on
Cancer support thread 90 - still the best threads no one wants to be on
tothelefttotheleft · 22/10/2023 15:45

@Octopus45

That is a irresistibly sweet face!

tothelefttotheleft · 22/10/2023 15:51

@Silkiebunny

In chemo you say.....

I did wonder about getting a dog. My children have been campaigning for years. Maybe we all need a focus other than the cancer. This was supposed to be my youngests gap year. We' were planning lots of holiday together. My two are asd and have other additional needs.

On the other hand I remember the work puppies are!

Silkiebunny · 22/10/2023 16:02

Yes I got a Maine Coon kitten in chemo and was a wonderful distraction for me and kids, one is asd, other was doing GCSEs during chemo. The Maine Coon is quite dog like, about 1.2 metres now and fetches balls in his mouth, super friendly but doesn't require walking so easier than a dog. Though they are indoor or indoor plus secured garden catio only and Floof does need company 24/7 and playing with around 4 hours a day. I would always ignore any promises made by children that they will do X to help and only get what you are happy looking after yourself.

dotty2 · 22/10/2023 16:16

I'm sorry you're feeling low @Octopus45 and @Unex . Firstly, I think it can help to remember you don't have to feel positive all the time. You've been dealt a really, really shitty hand, and it's OK to feel it's unfair, to be angry and despairing. I have felt all of those things, and still do sometimes. I had 6 free sessions of counselling with Macmillan during chemo, which helped a bit. But only a bit because it didn't change the reality of the situation.

What helped me more was having things to look forward to a few days or a few weeks ahead. Even now, a year on from diagnosis, I find I can't look more than a couple of months ahead without panicking, but I try to make sure there's always something nice in the diary. I managed a couple of nights away and some nice days out during chemo. I even genuinely managed to enjoy my 50th birthday which happened during chemo. You might not feel physically quite as bad as you anticipate. I went out for a walk every day, and we also got a new cat during chemo - I managed to go and visit some rescues etc. I am freelance and managed to do at least a couple of hours of work most days. Everyone is different, but it won't be weeks and weeks of feeling absolutely dreadful all of the time.

SierraSapphire · 22/10/2023 16:17

I find exercise really changes my mood. I walk two hours a day. Will miss it so much when I have chemo.

I don't know what sort of chemo, you're having, I had carboplatin and paclitaxel and other than the day of the infusion itself I walked or otherwise exercised every single day. I know some combinations are worse, but I was just thinking in the car actually on the way back from the gym just now as I was listening to a podcast with Julia Bradbury about a charity that fills toothpaste tubes with lead to show children how tired mummy (or daddy) is going to feel so that picking up toothpaste is really hard, that I was fed all sorts of doom about how I was going to feel, and actually I pretty much carried on my life as normal, I had a week after each infusion in which I didn't plan any external work (but I worked from home) and then two weeks when I was out and about as normal including gym and work. I know that's not everyone's story, but I have definitely heard other people say that it isn't as bad as they thought it was going to be.

SierraSapphire · 22/10/2023 16:18

Snap @dotty2 Grin

dotty2 · 22/10/2023 16:18

I crossed with Sierra there, and there was too much 'managing' in my post there, but I agree! I never felt like I was picking up a tube of toothpaste filled with lead!

SierraSapphire · 22/10/2023 16:24

No, the toothpaste filled with lead perhaps irrationally annoyed me! I was told the day before my chemo (although it turned out not to be the day before my chemo because they messed up) to go out and buy all sorts of mouth-related things, like a very soft toothbrush, and some mouthwash, but I had absolutely no mouth problems whatsoever! When I asked the oncologist whether I would be able to work through it, as I am also self-employed, he pulled a face and said no, probably not, but the hardest thing really was managing my hair. I bought lots of fancy clothes to compensate!

tothelefttotheleft · 22/10/2023 16:40

@SierraSapphire

I haven't started chemo yet. At the moment I can't imagine going out without hair. I think I'll be too self conscious to walk.

SierraSapphire · 22/10/2023 16:47

@tothelefttotheleft I cold capped, they told me they didn't normally do it for my treatment, but I did it, and though I did lose quite a bit of hair I had enough to look "normal" under headwear, I moved from wearing a thick headband to a hat or a buff if I was at the gym or just going into town, or a wig if I was going to work. I know lots of people don't get on with a wig, but mine was great (just got it via Macmillan at the hospital), and looked pretty much like my normal hair ("Only combed" as DD said!). You can also get things like hats or headbands with a bit of hair attached,

Octopus45 · 22/10/2023 18:41

@dotty2 thank you. Agree about the having things to look forward to. I'm also self-employed, going to have to stop my main work for surgery cause I have to go out and take pictures. Will work out how long I need off and take it from there. I am going to be looking at more online work opportunities as well, not scams obviously.

dotty2 · 22/10/2023 19:08

For me, one advantage of having chemo over the winter (mine was November - Feb last year) was that I could just wear an ordinary woolly hat out and about and not feel too self conscious. Lots of people wear wigs or scarves and look great too, but I hated both those options and preferred to be bald and defiant if I had to take my hat off. We did loads of nice wintery outdoor things which were good for both hats and avoiding infections - Christmas light shows etc.

Tilllly · 22/10/2023 19:31

Tilllly · 21/10/2023 08:59

Bronchoscopy on Monday

Said I'll be sedated and no driving for 24 hrs

Other than that, I don't know what to expect

Anyone able to advise?

Anyone?

<<< being needy>>>

Octopus45 · 22/10/2023 20:03

I'm sorry @Tilly, I dont have any advice, but just wanted to wish you all the best.

TopOfTheCliff · 22/10/2023 20:12

Sorry @Tilllly I don’t have any direct experience of bronchoscopy either but didn’t want to ignore you. When you go in the nurses will check you in and explain things. Are you going to be sedated? Have you had an information leaflet? The staff are amazingly kind and patient and used to people being nervous so they will look after you. Good luck and report back how it all goes.

I have had a duvet day today watching Mallory Towers which is hilarious. Bored and cross but only 3 days to go now. I’m not feeling very patient today.
Top x

Tilllly · 22/10/2023 20:14

I LOVE Mallory towers! I might rewatch from the beginning

Thanks for your replies. I'm not especially nervous, and I've read the leaflet, and yes I will be sedated. it's just better if you hear from someone who's got personal experience

dotty2 · 22/10/2023 20:45

sorry I can’t help @Tilllly Have you found the Macmillan forums? They have cancer specific forums so you might find some direct experiences there. Hope it’s not too nasty.

Tilllly · 22/10/2023 21:06

D'oh @dotty2 why didn't I think of that!
Will go search now!

RedRosesPinkLilies · 22/10/2023 21:53

@Tilllly ive only had endoscopies, but I’m a way might be similar- worst bit will be them putting the thin tube through your nose and down into the trachea. Definitely take any sedation you’re given.
It may not last that long.

There must be info online

I've also been fine with chemo, also carboplatin/paclitaxel. I have a week that I plan nothing in (just after chemo), but I can be up and about at home. Also keep some level of exercise going throughout. It’s not been as bad as I feared.

Silkiebunny · 22/10/2023 22:13

Sorry Tillly no idea, maybe a lung cancer forum. Though with me give me sedation and I am unaware of anything until I wake up all woozy. I prefer not to know the details sometimes.

doublec · 23/10/2023 06:02

Hello to you all!

Thank you so very much who shared their experiences of chemo, particularly how it affected their appetite and tastebuds. I had my first cycle last week, and at the pre-assessment, I got chatting to a very helpful woman who patiently answered my questions too. While my memory is now so engulfed with brain fog and I can no longer remember her name, but if one of you has beautiful short hair and was at Bart's last Wednesday PM and spoke to me while you were trying to find out if you would be able to make your last cycle of chemo AND your radiotherapy appointment, thank you so very much. You advice was both practical and a great reference point.

I have largely confined my chemo research (and cancer for that matter) to as much 'official' research regarding treatment and side effects. As you might have noticed, I dip in and out of this thread and preferred to speak to individuals personally with regards to their experiences and how they might relate to what I might expect. Also, given my genetic mutations, I have been told chemo would hit hard and could be difficult, particularly the first 72 hours, so I prepared myself for this.

However, while I appreciate it was my first session, I was really surprised that a little peripheral neuropathy and mild-nausea, the latter of which the pills easily quashed), the only real side effect so far is somewhere between feeling like I have I have drunk the alcohol, done all the drugs, abd eaten all the sugar to the degree that as my afternoon in the chemo ward progressed, I found myself having a bit of a manic episode. This lasted for almost 72 hours after my treatment finished. Weirdly, I am sleeping well. Thankfully, the manic moments seem to have faded into the distance, I feel surprisingly great. I must also thank this fit of mania for making me do more cleaning, sorting out and recycling than I have done for years. My house is now immaculate with almost a dozen bags of old paper work and other odds and sods finally disposed of.

I particularly love the chemo notebook they give you and am using it to keep note of these symptoms along with any thing else i notice. Will talk to my team at my next pre-assessment as the mania was worrying. But, thankfully, I was able to contain it. It makes me wonder how the next cycle will hit. Who knows, it's a lottery it seems.

Will try to catch-up and read the bits i have missed, so hope to write more later.

RedRosesPinkLilies · 23/10/2023 07:01

Did you have steroids for the chemo? They can cause manic episodes- definitely worth asking about in case it get any worse.
Other than that - Congrats! One done xx

SierraSapphire · 23/10/2023 07:22

Yes I was going to say that about the steroids, I didn't take many of mine, and so my house remained a mess 😂. I also had a twinge of peripheral neuropathy after the first one and froze my feet for the rest with ice slippers and it never developed any further. The first one is the worst psychologically IME @doublec but physically they seem to tend to follow a similar pattern, I did get a bit tireder towards the end and had some problems with my veins, but no significant difference. Well done!

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