So, to cut a long story short, my husband was contacted by someone who he matched with on a geology website. This person matched as a bio child to my husband. This person is older than we have been together (we have been married 16 years) so no concerns there. The mother slept with several other people while she had a long term partner and allowed both her partner and the child believe they were biologically father & child. They stayed together and had more children etc. until her dad discovered he wasn’t her biological dad which brings us to here . This adult doesn’t live very close to us. My husband and I met for a coffee last year. He has no intentions of bringing this person into our home or introduce to our own children. The child /adult has been in touch to ask to meet for another coffee. I would not stop my husband from meeting but I’m struggling a bit with it all. I don’t know if I should go to this next meet up or not. They will be bringing their partner and my husband says it’s entirely up to me. I’m struggling with how this person fits in our life.