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Calling all Foster Carers!

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NanaNina · 29/12/2011 20:02

I don't know how many of you have heard Cameron talking about children being "warehoused" or "languishing in care" instead of being adopted. I was thinking how insulting this was to foster carers, and so I was really pleased on Boxing day to read a letter by a friend of mine who works for Fostering Network.

Here is the letter that was published in the Guardian on boxing day.

"On behalf of all those amazing foster carers who look after babies and young children tirelesssly and with skill, committment, love and pasion, can I point out that fostering is not "warehousing" children, but in fact provides some of society's most vulnerable children with warm caring homes, often for many years. These days foster carers are carefully selected, protected and trained to carry out this important job, often for very little financial remuneration - they, and the children that they care for deserve support, not disrespect."

I can only endorse every word she has written.

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bottersnike · 04/01/2012 14:59

Very pleased to hear someone say that more training is needed on attachment, and the issues it can cause. I agree completely that in-depth training is needed on this before a child comes into a home, either with foster carers or adopters.
Our LO (baby) struggled for the first week or so, but from what others have said we were very lucky that it wasn't longer and more serious. I am now concerned about to help LO through the adoption process...
Our LA has finally released the training dates for three sessions on attachment and I will be going to all of them, and hoping for a reading list as well!!

scarlet5tyger · 04/01/2012 19:33

Buster, I watched the programme on adoption and was left almost in tears - mostly because my FC is almost at the end of that journey and I'm anxious about it but also because of the fury I felt at this "languishing in care" statement. I can understand why some people on here are saying it shouldn't upset us but the programme was clearly implying that great damage is done whilst a child is in care. I'm delighted to read the letter Nananina has posted for us - I just wish it was from a member of the public rather than someone at the Fostering Network.

I also agree with Nana about the attachment courses being run BEFORE approval. Luckily I was on my fourth FC before I came across a serious case of attachment disorder but the damage it had done was shocking. Naively I'd thought it meant the child would have problems attaching to me, simple as that. In actual fact it affected EVERY aspect of our life - they hoarded food, were incredibly angry, couldn't stand to be touched, would walk off with a complete stranger, had no attention span, broke every toy they were given... I could go on all day! The child left me ages ago and I'm still waiting to go on the attachment course I requested when they were placed.

NanaNina · 04/01/2012 23:53

Maypole - there is no way that an IFA would want to run a LA fostering and adoption service, and neither would they be fit to do so. IFAs are businesses and make a great deal of money out of recruiting carers and selling them to the LA. It does mean that carers get paid more and there are services built in for the child like psychological help, education help etc. but the funds for these are charged to the LA. I don't think a lot of people realise this. Sometimes IFA foster carers don't even realise this. This of course depletes the budgets of LAs making the situation worse, and means that they lose carers to IFAs. Given that there is a national shortage of LA foster carers, then IFAs are used more and more I am given to understand.

The difference is that the LA has the statutory responsibility for placing children who are no longer able to live with their parents, in foster care or if older in residential care. Believe me NO IFA would want this statutory responsibility and get paid the same rate as social workers do! Why would they want to give up the huge profits they are making from LAs?

Botterspike glad your LA is putting on 3 training sessions. You can find a lot of books on attachment on Amazon - just type in attachment theory or attachment disorder and probably better still you can buy books on attachment for a reasonable cost on the British Agencies for Fostering & Adoption (BAAF) web site. Fostering Network may do books on the subject too. I think it would be a good idea to do some reading before the course, so that you are a step ahead.

A lot of carers for the LA I worked for used to say that they found the attachment training much more useful after having a child with these difficulties, as they could relate the child's behaviour to the theory. I think one of the main problems is that carers think that if you love a child enough, they will be all right, but as you probably know, love is not enough. You have to learn how to help the child learn to trust adults again and for many children there is a big gap between their chronological age and emotional age and this has to be recognised and the child allowed to digress at certain times.

By definition all children coming into the LA system will have an insecure attachment pattern with birth parents, as securely attached children would not need to be removed from parents, as this indicates that all their needs are being met.

Scarlet Glad you appreciated the letter, and I suppose not many people understand what is going on in the world of fostering & adoption, other than those involved, or someone like my friend working for Fostering Network. She has a wealth of experience and has been involved in fostering for 30 years. We were team managers together in a shire county LA but I retired at 60, and she is younger than me.

I think you have to keep badgering the LA about the attachment course. Could a group of you get together as this is usually better than a lone carer asking for something. You shouldn't need to ask - the LA should have this at the top of their agenda. You might be interested in reading around the subject in the meantime.

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scarlet5tyger · 05/01/2012 19:05

Hi Nana, trust me - I did so much research on my own that I could probably teach the course myself now!!!

NanaNina · 05/01/2012 20:57

Maybe you can offer to run a course for other foster carers in your LA?!

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