I cope by stringing together a particularly revolting set of swear words and muttering them under my breath, or out loud if alone!
We've been married 22 years, and have lived together for 8 of them on and off; the remainder of the time has been sea time and weekending, or when he initially came to Brussels , six weeking between here and Cornwall. I eventually moved out here as I couldn't have done it for the next four years, which is what we were looking at, so I gave up my career, pulled ds out of his very good prep, let the house and moved.
Being with someone in the Navy is very different to the Army and RAF. We can't go to sea with them, so we have to make our own lives outside the confines of the Service. The majority of my friends in the UK don't really have anything to do with the Services; we have our own house, I had a career and my life revolved around school, not HM Submarines.
You will cope much better by being independent imo. I've never wanted to live on a married patch, as from what a couple of friends say who do, it can get really bitchy and pointed, and a bit Chinese whisper-y and that's not my thing. That's why we've always weekended. Another advantage of that is that you can both concentrate on your work during the week, and then have the weekends free.
My dh used to get irritated when I vented as he was normally about to disappear into the depths again and couldn't do much to help. Hence my previous comment about savaging Council Tax payers to get rid of the aggression.
Vent on MN by all means - it's what it's there for....but don't end up on his report unless it's for being a perfect model wife, rather than the one I knew who used to ring the boat fairly regularly mid morning and enquire when her dh was coming home!
Any way, greetings from not raining today thank god, Brussels and keep on keeping on as they say.