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On My Own

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MrsMiaWallace · 07/11/2004 20:57

have been staying away for reasons i earlier explained,
but after 6 months of dp being at home with us(made redundant) he starts working again tomorrow 6 days a week till 6pm every day.
am happy he's working again for his self esteem as much as the money but wondering what ill be like on my own with dd again?
still havent got new ad's as doc still on hol and although no its the best thing we could do, am a little worried.
i know i can do things my way again but its the seperation and loss of adult conversation each day. how will i manage?

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mrschristmaswallace · 02/12/2004 21:05

she is! shes such a little charichter and she is now getting so much closer to dp! she used to cling to me something terrible, but since dp went back to work, she follows him round as soon as he gets home and even leaves me to go upstairs with him while he gets changed! its lovely seeing her 'bonding' with him as he isnt all that confident, so by dd being more loving/interested in him, has really brought thier relationship on, which gives me 5 mins to have a break now!!!

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cardigansarenotjustforxmas · 02/12/2004 21:00

Thats lovely MrsMW - your dd sounds really wonderful

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mrsmiawallace · 02/12/2004 20:57

thankyou both, have had a lovely day today, just me and dd stayed in making snowflakes and paperchains and colouring them in! then putting them and more christmas lights and decorations up!
we did the same tuesday as all our other days are v.busy!
woke up this morning and dd stoked my face and smiled at me(only 19 months!) and said 'Enno!(hello), felt very privelidged and grateful being able to see that beautiful face every day.

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cardigan · 29/11/2004 20:33

Sending you lots of kind wishes MrsMW xxx

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Dior · 29/11/2004 20:25

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mrsmiawallace · 29/11/2004 20:22

hit and miss with me unfortunatly.
dp on day off today as has to work sat, we had massive row last night about dd spilling yogurt! which ended with me in tears, him being and arse and me going to be at 8pm. woke up this morning and couldnt be botherd carying on the row, so started talking but really dont know wether im on my a**e or my elbow! im either crying, angry, tense or thinking id be better off dead.then the next day, im fine? been on efexor for two weeks, but dont feel they're doing anything yet..or maybe i am asking too much?i dont know?

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pedilia · 29/11/2004 12:49

how are things today guys ?

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pedilia · 29/11/2004 12:49

how are things today guys ?

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MummyToSteven · 28/11/2004 13:04

Hi there youngfifemum and welcome to MN. it's such a life change isn't it, from being out and about/with colleagues at work (okay you don't necessarily like them all but at least there is a bit of background distraction!), to being at home and it being such a faff to get out.

is your HV any good? If so she could be useful in knowing what's going on in the area. if you put a specific post about it then there might be other mumsnetters from your neck of the woods that want to meet up with other mums or know what's good/cheap to do with kids in the area . there is also a "Meet-up" topic on here - so have a look there to see if there are any local threads.

in terms of the tablets - are you still on those? has your GP referred you for counselling at all? would you want to be referred for counselling at all if not? bye for now x

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youngfifemum · 28/11/2004 12:52

HI THERE IM NEW ON HERE. I FEEL LOW AS WELL. MY DH WORKS MOST DAYS TILL 6PM IN THE EVINING SOMETIMES LATERI LOVE BEING WITH MY DAUGHTER BUT I FEEL SO LONELY I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH DEPRESSION AND GOT TABLETS BUT I FELT BETTER FOR A WHILE THOUGHT I WAS OK BUT NOW I AM STARTING TO FEEL LONELY ON MY OWN AGAIN. I DONT CRY OR THAT BUT I HAVE A SHORT FUSE AND GETGRUMPY FR TIME TO TIME AM I THE ONLY ONE?

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mrsmiawallace · 27/11/2004 22:03

had a very busy day, cleaning and pottering about with dd, she has been great all day, then as soon as dp came home... my mood changed!he moaned at dd cos she wanted his attention as she missed him and never spent any time with her, we even stayed upstairs after her bath having a cuddle to give him some time to chill out(laughable i know, ive been with her all day!) then as soon as we went down, she was still exited to see him and he winged about not watching x factor as it was too loud and busy for her and stomped off upstairs till i took her to bed!b***d

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mrsmiawallace · 26/11/2004 22:13

thankyou, and i will try!, he's quite nervous!just induction tomorrow, but still got the collywobbles

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pedilia · 26/11/2004 21:37

good luck to dp, and you hang on in there girl !!!

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mrsmiawallace · 26/11/2004 21:22

here we go again!
dp starts "new" job in morning!

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tammybear · 13/11/2004 21:36

should be permanently properly living together after wards. better be otherwise ill be kicking him somewhere i shudnt Sorry bout ur test. how r things otherwise?

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MrsMiaWallace · 13/11/2004 21:33

thats sounds better, a nice transition! and he might get used to it as well as his parents!so it will end up full time after his course!
im okay still p**d off about test, but ad's are making me numb so feel quite chilled at min!

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tammybear · 13/11/2004 21:30

hey, im fine, u? dp was here weds for the college open evening. it looks like he only has to go in mon-weds so hes going to be at mine sun eve-weds eve, that way we can be together more than we are now and his parents are happy about the situation. ive seen your other thread, hope your bil can help xxx

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MrsMiaWallace · 13/11/2004 21:28

hi tammy bear, have posted on other threads about whats happening(something about ad's?)
how are you? any news on the big move/no move?

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tammybear · 12/11/2004 21:17

hi MMW, sorry i missed u last night, was tucked up in bed at 10 last night as im so tired! dp was round weds and dd has a cold.

im sorry things havent picked up, and dont think your dh is being of much help! glad you saw your doc and good luck with the new ADs. dont fret too much about your driving test. i found (and most people i know have to) that if you go into your test with the attitude that you dont care whether you pass or not, you come out with a pass, but when you go in thinking you'll pass and then become too confident and then cocky, you end up failing.

i hope you feel better soon, and keep thinking about your beautiful dd xxx

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MrsMiaWallace · 11/11/2004 22:33

thanks mummytummy.night
x

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mummytummy · 11/11/2004 22:30

Speak to you next time you're on MMW.

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MrsMiaWallace · 11/11/2004 22:19

sorry, i dont think i can stay on tonight, your kind words have made me teary and i need to hold myself together. thankyou for talking to me mummytummy, your a good 'friend'.x

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mummytummy · 11/11/2004 22:16

I know one thing. That daughter of yours is extremely glad you were born, and he may not show it sometimes, but I'm sure dp is too. Hang in there.

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MrsMiaWallace · 11/11/2004 22:12

thanks, i hope so too as i cant go on like this, i just dont want to get up then i cant get to sleep. i dont know if im coming or going

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mummytummy · 11/11/2004 22:10

Sorry its still not going well for you. Lets keep our fingers crossed for the new ads, or that they find something constructive they can deal with from the blood tests.

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