Thinking about sterilisation- the truthful pros and cons?

[Redtartanshoes]

I’m 36, 1 dc aged 11, partner has 3 of similar ages.

I absolutely don’t want any more. Had an abortion last year due to contraception failure. Have tried pill coil mittens etc over years, nothing agrees with me. Currently back on pill but have piles weight on, it’s also affecting moods and libido significantly.

I think I want to be sterilised. I don’t want anymore hormones in my body:

Pros and cons? Anything I need to consider?

Thanks in advance

Redtartanshoes that’s exactly how I felt, I wanted to do it for me, no one else.

There was a similar thread a few months back where people were asserting that it should be the man getting the snip in all couples, and any man who doesn’t want to is somehow less of a man. For, you know, making his own decision, just as you are trying to come to your own decision on this.

Do what feels right for you.

I had it done due to gynae issues. Don't regret. No problems.

Dp and I have only been together a tear, and whilst I’d love him to be the one, there’s no guarentees and I would hate for him to get it done, for me essentially, the. Us to split up and me have to get it done in the future and have to go back on contraception in the mean time.

Get a copper coil, no more hormones .. I doubt the nhs would pay for it to be honest .

Had one for a year. Periods were horrific.

In Scotland, no problem with being referred apparently.

Why have sterilisation if NHS not prepared to offer it? ((Just wondering))

Any operation requiring GA should be avoided if possible. That's one of the reasons they try to persuade you having it. The main reason is money.

My GP asked me why I wanted the op rather than DH have the snip. We'd considered that, then read up the risks - the official NHS stats were too high for comfort.

Given your relatively new relationship, and your conviction that you don't want more children I think it makes sense. But if you're not absolutely convinced of this yourself, you won't persuade a surgeon to go ahead.

I was sterilized at our own expense as I knew I never wanted to have another baby and the cost wasn’t that much, no over night stay so cheaper than if I’d had to stay in. Probably cheaper than sending a 13 year old on a school skiing trip, but I don’t honestly remember as it was about that long ago. A friend of mine had an unplanned baby just before she was 47 and I am so pleased I’m not going through teaching another child to swim etc, let alone having a child finish school when I’m in my mid 60s.