lied about my age

[muckylugs]

hi - i recently started a new job and during discussions with colleagues, we were talking about how old we were. I am 45 but I do look a lot younger so when i told a couple of people my age they thought i said 35...so now everyone thinks im 35 and i dont really want to put them right as its lovely being thought of as being younger...what do you think i should do?

We had a woman at work who claimed to be 35... She was 53 and looked it. They might all be being very polite too We never mentioned anything, except when she claimed she "my doctor says I have the body of a 20 year old" and a colleague could be heard to mutter "yeah, under the floorboards!".

I'd stop discussing my age at work and just leave it.

I don't get this, it's funny though.
I would think, if age is a touchy area for you, that being seen as a 45yo who looks good for their age is better than everyone thinking you're 35 and looking it (at best).
Also, ten years puts you into a whole seperate bracket, different frames of reference etc. even if you tend to have a 'younger' mindset, chances are lots of things about you, hair, style, music etc point to your actual age.
In all honesty I imagine they probably know you're not 35 or think you're an old(er) before your time 35.
Surely better to just be who you really are?

What a weird thing to do. I'd rather have my age known and thought to look good for it, than to be thought younger and look old. But then I don't understand why people want to look young in the first place.

Why don't you understand Nooka?

I agree with nooka.
I am my age. I am comfortable with that. It doesn't really matter if I look 5 yrs older, or 5 yrs younger, because the fact remains that I am as old as I am. And that's not going to change.

I don't want to be defined by other peoples expectations of what womenn my age should be like. What clothes I should wear, where i should shop, my hairstyle, my hobbies. It happens all the time,I notice it a lot here on mumsnet . Kelly suggests that it puts me in a "separate bracket " and defines what music I should like!!!!

Eg in a threads about " young mums" , many posters said that they had their children " young" because at least they would be fit enough to run around after them. Well I had my last children " very old " and I just about manage to care for them in between my marathon training.

Eg if you post asking for advice for a wedding outfit, you get lots of great suggestion. When I posted asking about a mother of the bride outfit, I got sent to Debehamsn and Jacque vert. Lots of posters told me where their mother shopped, rather than where they would go . I got something in tedbaker BTW, thanks for asking

I am fed up with the stereotype that " women my age" should be shopping in per una, setting our hair on rollers and siting at home watching soaps. When soem of us are out running businesses and marathons, looking more stylish and healthier than many women half our age

They thought you are 10 years younger. You haven't lied. I wouldn't worry about it.

What skin care do you use??

I'm only 30 and have no doubt I look my age or slightly younger.

As I've gotten old I find it's gotten easy to "age guess" people older than me, harder to age guess people younger (because I'm using me/my age as a starting point).

For that reason I'd definitely notice that you're older than 45 and agree they probably just think you look old for your age.