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Elderly parents

Live-in care funding

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Essentialunmentionable · 15/08/2025 18:20

Mil has hit that point where the family can no longer cope, and she needs around-the-clock care. The family are exploring options and are considering getting a live-in carer - they would like to use MIL's savings to pay initially, with Social Services/ Local Council continuing to pay when her savings ran out.
Has anyone managed to make this work?

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Smartiepants79 · 16/08/2025 10:15

Live in care is extremely expensive and very hard to find reliable and good people.
My grandmother was a wealthy woman. live in care drained her savings and pensions in less than 10 months. She has had to move into a home and sell her house to pay for it. I would not recommend unless there is a lot of money around.

ThePure · 16/08/2025 10:17

Ihateboris · 16/08/2025 10:14

Thank you for this explanation. She isn't PEG fed and eats normally, although she often refuses to eat the food provided and her daughter brings in homemade stuff!

The PEG feeding was just an example of a health need that might qualify for CHC there are lots of other areas including continence, mobility, cognition, behaviour but you have to score a certain number of points overall to qualify and it’s a high bar.

Ihateboris · 16/08/2025 10:20

ThePure · 16/08/2025 10:17

The PEG feeding was just an example of a health need that might qualify for CHC there are lots of other areas including continence, mobility, cognition, behaviour but you have to score a certain number of points overall to qualify and it’s a high bar.

Ah, yes, she's quite immobile and has incontinence issues but most definitely not cognitively impaired.

EasternSkies · 16/08/2025 10:21

It’s very confusing managing all this.

The hospital -arranged cover is usually called an ‘enablement package’ deemed suitable until someone can be more self sufficient.

But the NHS can also provide a ‘continuing care’ package for health needs.

Have you approached the council’s Adult Services dept for a Care Assessment?

Though if she has substantial savings she will not be entitled to paid for carers.

However, Attendance Allowance is not means tested and can be spent towards any service that helps . A cleaner, gardener or live in carer.

Age UK can be really helpful in navigating all this .

The LA did pay for live in care for my parents but it was cost effective because there were two of them. But it was hard work. Agencies put carers on two or three week placements. You need to arrange two hours respite care to give the carer time off if the client cannot be left for two hours at a time all the usual household issues need to be dealt with.

Essentialunmentionable · 16/08/2025 10:35

ThePure · 16/08/2025 10:15

To OP I would say to go ahead and organise the live in care (usually via an agency) and when the money is close to running out review at that point but do not assume social care would pick up the bill as that is unlikely. They will do their own needs (and financial) assessment at that point.

However things can change very fast when you are old and frail with health needs and it may well be that by the time it comes to her needing a care home she will accept it. Usually 4x a day care is the max for social care but I have known people to have live in care packages at home funded, even very expensive ones but usually for niche reasons eg that care homes cannot meet their needs.

As others have said you need to factor in carer breaks and holidays and if she has needs regularly at night would require a night carer and a day carer which is more than most people could afford.

There isn't much money - less than £30k in savings.

I think that whilst it might seem a "low change" approach to meeting her care needs, having someone living in your house is quite an intense situation (I would hate it), I think a care home would potentially provide her with more opportunity to socialise and enjoy her days - she is still mentally very switched on - just very physically disabled. I think she would benefit from more mental stimulation.

But it's not my decision and my opinion is not really relevant - I'm just trying to support dh with info - he's googled, of course, and we have a neighbour who is a social worker who has been very helpful, but we don't want to impose too much on her.

Having a chat with people who have had direct experience is invaluable and this forum has been so helpful in the past when I have been dealing with my own elderly parents.

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EmotionalBlackmail · 16/08/2025 10:42

Ihateboris · 16/08/2025 10:07

Thank you. I visit her twice a week as i wash her hair and do her nails! From what I can see, she is unable to cook for herself and clean herself as she has mobility issues.

It’s almost impossible to get CHC funding, even if someone is bed-bound, immobile and can’t wash themselves, needs help with eating etc. That still wouldn’t meet the criteria.
It either means they have very very high, fluctuating care needs and/or are terminally ill and in the very last part of their life. There is a fast track CHC for those who are terminally ill.

ThePure · 16/08/2025 10:44

Hmm yes £30k will not go far in either scenario of live in care or care home. I think the social care threshold is 23k.

In that scenario I would ask social care for an assessment now (you can usually call a central number on the council website) and then you know for sure what they might be willing to offer.

I have definitely seen live in care go badly wrong where there is resentment about the carer being there or cultural differences. In a care home if you don’t like one carer at least you can ask for a different one. Maybe if she looked around a few places she might be persuaded. With savings so close to the threshold you would still need to choose one that social care would be willing to fund if you went down that route or they might move her if it’s too expensive. I would recommend trying to get them involved although they can be reluctant to assist ‘self funders’

Juliejuly · 16/08/2025 11:02

EmotionalBlackmail · 16/08/2025 10:42

It’s almost impossible to get CHC funding, even if someone is bed-bound, immobile and can’t wash themselves, needs help with eating etc. That still wouldn’t meet the criteria.
It either means they have very very high, fluctuating care needs and/or are terminally ill and in the very last part of their life. There is a fast track CHC for those who are terminally ill.

For anyone interested, here’s a link to the CHC funding screening tool. Only if people meet enough of the domains ( as mentioned in the guidance notes) will someone be recommended for a full assessment, unless they are deemed to be fast track, in other words expected to die within the coming 3 to 6 months.

https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/630399dae90e0729db4b59f9/NHS-Continuing-Healthcare-Checklist-guidance-2022.pdf

https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/630399dae90e0729db4b59f9/NHS-Continuing-Healthcare-Checklist-guidance-2022.pdf

Ihateboris · 16/08/2025 11:22

EmotionalBlackmail · 16/08/2025 10:42

It’s almost impossible to get CHC funding, even if someone is bed-bound, immobile and can’t wash themselves, needs help with eating etc. That still wouldn’t meet the criteria.
It either means they have very very high, fluctuating care needs and/or are terminally ill and in the very last part of their life. There is a fast track CHC for those who are terminally ill.

She is most definitely not at end of life or terminal. As I said previously, she's basically bed bound.

hatgirl · 16/08/2025 11:48

EmotionalBlackmail · 16/08/2025 10:42

It’s almost impossible to get CHC funding, even if someone is bed-bound, immobile and can’t wash themselves, needs help with eating etc. That still wouldn’t meet the criteria.
It either means they have very very high, fluctuating care needs and/or are terminally ill and in the very last part of their life. There is a fast track CHC for those who are terminally ill.

Yep - people can actually have very low social care needs but still qualify for CHC because of high health care needs.

So for example unstable diabetes that requires a registered nurse on hand 24 hrs a day to manage, a physical condition that requires carful positioning to manage to prevent aspiration, anything involving titrated medications, or regular altered states of conciousness requiring a health professional to respond.

Also for fast track continuing healthcare because they have a terminal condition in which death within 12 weeks could be expected.

There is so much misinformation about CHC, it is hard to get because it's and NHS service to meet health needs. Washing, dressing and eating are social care needs whether they appear because of physical infirmity or mental decline.

olderbutwiser · 16/08/2025 12:00

The trouble with residential care for someone who does not have dementia is that most other residents in council funded homes do have dementia and the activities etc are more oriented to their needs. It might be worth checking round local care homes that accept council funding to find one that has a higher proportion of non-dementia residents.

First step is definitely to get a council needs assessment for her to see what they will and won’t fund for her.

Cheese55 · 16/08/2025 12:20

Ihateboris · 16/08/2025 09:53

I've just been through similar. My 75 year old stepfather needs round the clock care and we had no other option than to put him in a care home. This is currently being funded by his savings which we estimate will run out in 12 months at which point his house will be sold to continue to fund the care. It's very concerning as his house is only worth about £120,000 (one bed house in the north), and his care costs are £6.5k per month !

I just don't understand how it works as I have a friend who's mum is in a fully funded (via CHC) care home and yet she has cash assets of just over £850k, as well as monthly bank, pension and dividend income, rental income and state pension totalling approx £4000. So whilst she's being cared for at zero cost, her wealth is increasing. I know all this because I complete her Tax Return. Can somebody shed some light on this??

CHC is funded by Health . The NHS is 'free'. Social care is means tested but the social care budget pays for the majority of the bill.

Ihateboris · 16/08/2025 12:24

Essentialunmentionable · 15/08/2025 18:20

Mil has hit that point where the family can no longer cope, and she needs around-the-clock care. The family are exploring options and are considering getting a live-in carer - they would like to use MIL's savings to pay initially, with Social Services/ Local Council continuing to pay when her savings ran out.
Has anyone managed to make this work?

Thank you. It's very confusing and just seems unfair that some have to pay and some don't.

Ihateboris · 16/08/2025 12:27

hatgirl · 16/08/2025 11:48

Yep - people can actually have very low social care needs but still qualify for CHC because of high health care needs.

So for example unstable diabetes that requires a registered nurse on hand 24 hrs a day to manage, a physical condition that requires carful positioning to manage to prevent aspiration, anything involving titrated medications, or regular altered states of conciousness requiring a health professional to respond.

Also for fast track continuing healthcare because they have a terminal condition in which death within 12 weeks could be expected.

There is so much misinformation about CHC, it is hard to get because it's and NHS service to meet health needs. Washing, dressing and eating are social care needs whether they appear because of physical infirmity or mental decline.

Well this particular lady has been fully funded for 7 months so far.

Cheese55 · 16/08/2025 12:28

Its not unfair if you think about it. Those with complex health needs (and ultra complex!) needs qualified nursing. Those with social care needs such as immobility, dementia and needing to be fed etc does not need a nurse therefore doesn't qualify.

Mrsbloggz · 16/08/2025 12:32

A live in carer's role for an elderly person is surely only going to be a magnet for a con artist!

Cheese55 · 16/08/2025 12:34

I think you get them from an agency and they have been vetted!

Mischance · 16/08/2025 12:40

My late OH's live-in care was paid for by the health authority via Continuing Health Care Funding. It may not apply to your Mum but is worth investigating. Free advice is available from Beacon: www.beaconchc.co.uk

viques · 16/08/2025 12:44

Ihateboris · 16/08/2025 12:24

Thank you. It's very confusing and just seems unfair that some have to pay and some don't.

Well it might seem unfair, but what would be the alternative provision for people who can’t afford to pay? It’s the same argument that occurs when you look at general health care, people who have abused and damaged their bodies with alcohol, drugs , nicotine, excessive bad food choices etc, are still as entitled to treatment and care as those who have looked after themselves carefully but still been struck down with illness, accident or infirmity.

We look after people who need help and don’t judge, or reserve care for those who can pay and turn a blind eye to those who can’t pay and let them rot.

Juliejuly · 16/08/2025 12:48

Ihateboris · 16/08/2025 12:27

Well this particular lady has been fully funded for 7 months so far.

It’s an in exact science predicting how long someone will live after a terminal diagnosis.

Ihateboris · 16/08/2025 13:51

viques · 16/08/2025 12:44

Well it might seem unfair, but what would be the alternative provision for people who can’t afford to pay? It’s the same argument that occurs when you look at general health care, people who have abused and damaged their bodies with alcohol, drugs , nicotine, excessive bad food choices etc, are still as entitled to treatment and care as those who have looked after themselves carefully but still been struck down with illness, accident or infirmity.

We look after people who need help and don’t judge, or reserve care for those who can pay and turn a blind eye to those who can’t pay and let them rot.

I think you misunderstood. What confuses me is that my stepfather, who appears to have the same issues as this extremely wealthy lady, has to pay for his care, but she doesn't. I absolutely feel that everyone should be provided with care. My question is: why does my stepfather have to sell his one bedroom house to fund his care, but an extremely wealthy woman whose bank balance is increasing, doesn't have to pay anything? Is it dependent on area?

Cheese55 · 16/08/2025 14:08

No it's dependant on health needs which you might not be aware of

ThePure · 16/08/2025 14:14

It has been explained to you that it is because her care is funded by NHS CHC which is free and his is funded by social care which is means tested.

She must have very significant health needs which you are unaware of in order to be funded by CHC. If she does not or no longer does it will soon be taken away I am sure

It is a national system which applies the same in all areas. Your dad will have had an NHS CHC screen and been deemed ineligible as most people are. Someone posted the actual criteria upthread so if you think he does score highly on those then by all means you can ask for a reconsideration. Ask his care home to refer him to the local CHC assessor.

Ihateboris · 16/08/2025 14:34

ThePure · 16/08/2025 14:14

It has been explained to you that it is because her care is funded by NHS CHC which is free and his is funded by social care which is means tested.

She must have very significant health needs which you are unaware of in order to be funded by CHC. If she does not or no longer does it will soon be taken away I am sure

It is a national system which applies the same in all areas. Your dad will have had an NHS CHC screen and been deemed ineligible as most people are. Someone posted the actual criteria upthread so if you think he does score highly on those then by all means you can ask for a reconsideration. Ask his care home to refer him to the local CHC assessor.

Thank you, I will do this.

Mischance · 16/08/2025 16:14

Most people are deemed ineligible for CHC funding - this should not be taken at face value. My OH got this on appeal after two refusals. Hence my advice to contact Beacon (see above) and they will give you an objective view on whether he qualifies. If he doesn't, they will tell you; if he does they will help you to apply.

The advice is free up to a certain time allocation and a charge only applies if you ask them to conduct an appeal for you. I had several free conversations with a Beacon solicitor and advice about the content of the appeal I had written and it all came within the free allocation.

Staff in the NHS (hospital or community) are trained in patient care and not in the administration of CHC funding. Their snapshot decisions when filling in the initial form are very often wrong. It is in fact quite shocking that people are given misinformation that has such a big impact on their lives. .