DF can't stand or walk, hospital want to send him home

[TheMerryAquaBird]

DF collapsed in the week as he suddenly lost the strength in his legs, he's been in hospital but they are keen to discharge home. He hasn't regained the strength in his legs so can't stand or walk, so I don't see how he can take care of himself, get to the toilet etc. DM has terminal cancer so can't be his carer, I'm scared it'll be left to me. I'll help where I can but can't do it full time.

Can we just refuse him coming home until he can walk? What help can I ask the hospital to provide, if any?

Thanks x

The physio should be able to organise equipment for his home, like a wheeled walker, trolley walker for kitchen use, commode, raised toilet seat etc. insist they help supply any equipment needed. And make it plain neither you nor your mum can assist him in any way. Adult social care may need to get involved, unless he or the family can afford private home care? At least until he's well.
He could also be sent to a rehab if he isn't well enough to go home. But make sure all these avenues have been explored.

There's a website called Care Opinion. You can post what happened on there and the people who work for that website email your post to the head people of the hospital, local social services, council workers, local councillors etc.

If he’s likely to improve with physio he should go to a rehab facility ideally.

Spaces in rehab facilities are hard to come by.

Be awkward, say you’re unable to care for him. He may need to go into a half-way hospital or residential care for a while (the council pays for a set period). My elderly mother wasn’t discharged recently until she showed she could do stairs, make tea, get to the toilet, get dressed etc by herself.