I tried to encourage my parents to invest in a new build bungalow (to their requirements, mother handicapped) along the road where there was a development, I suggested they rent it till they needed it, or one of them was widowed. They would have kept the same neighbours, habits, post code, & they could afford it.
There was a massively unpleasant argument, "We want to die here"
I said, if nothing else it would be a good safety net & investment
So a few years later my Dad got Alzheimers, & went into a home, mother had to have a live in carer, had a stair lift to get to the Bath, & slowly diminished living in 2 rooms with bed in the dining room, etc
The house got increasingly decrepit.
She couldn't even see her famous garden.
The end.
My MIL needs to move, she is shuffling around in a 4 bed house, its huge, cold, she has no shower. She is alone eith depression/onset dementia.
Her sons are builders, they could build her a lovely bungalow on her own property, she would have the same address, view, neighbours, her GC lives on site to help...
No, not happening.
I said to H, we need to buy a ground floor flat, or flat with a large terrace in neighbouribg town, we would be able to walk to the beach, shops, doctor, chemist, baker, fish from the fishermen's stall on the port.
Rent it out till we need it. We can afford it, it would help our children, it would be better for US. ( or the remaining survivor.)
I said here we can go nowhere without a car
I would be unwilling & likely unable to manage the outdoor acreage alone
It is occasionally cut iff by flooding !!!!!
We can afford it......
He is not being proactive. He looks at me like a hare in headlights. He built the house, its a lovely environment. He has his old buddies & habits.
I think its the "head in the sand syndrome" or I cant face the upheaval, I'll think about it tomorrow , what If I dont like a flat in town, the noise nuisance, miss my daily routine with my little habits
Yes its beautiful here,
Yes we manage (now)