Another question as my last was answered so helpfully.
We have a great chance at a place in a very coveted state secondary school.
We have also been prepping our (currently) state educated child for independent tests in Nov / Dec.
She says she loves the state secondary option, and doesn't want to go to the private school.
She thinks private schools probably don't progress pupils as much as the children are all rich enough to have tutors, and generally thinks it's not worth the money.
She appears to be genuinely excited about the state option, but I'm not sure whether she just doesn't want to do the tests (impostor syndrome), though, or whether she's worrying about the money (it'll be a sharp pinch and she is the eldest of 3). She's put in a lot of hard work and she'll likely do well.
In my shoes would you put her through the tests, or just let it go?
She's very confident at the moment, among the top in the class. I also don't want to push her through the tests to perhaps not get in and that impact her confidence. It's hard to separate my issues from hers (if any). I do feel the weight of this decision. I asked whether she'd still want to go state if she got into the indie - she said yes. I also asked how she would feel if her sister two years younger went to a private, and when i said that she said maybe it's a good idea to at least take the test, but she still thinks she'd like the state.
I really don't know whether to keep on the treadmill of selective tests, would appreciate some thoughts.