I'm dealing with some concerns about my 3-year-old daughter’s first-ever preschool experience. The school enforces a strict punctuality rule where even being 1 minute late counts as an instance, and after 3 late arrivals in a month, they send the child home. I had an instance where my clock malfunctioned, and despite explaining the situation, they didn’t allow her to attend class. They’ve suggested I keep her home if I anticipate being late, but I feel this creates unnecessary pressure and may encourage skipping school.
In addition to the punctuality issue, the school has repeatedly suggested that my daughter get an eye checkup, even though I haven’t observed any vision problems at home—she seems to see just fine. They’ve also mentioned that she is “shy,” lacks social behavior, and is not very expressive. Instead of allowing her to sit in the front rows where she might feel more engaged, they continue to focus on the eye checkup. While I understand their observations, I enrolled her in preschool precisely to help her develop social skills and confidence.
This is both my child’s and my own first experience with school, and the strict policies, along with the feedback, are putting extra pressure on us during this critical transition phase. I’m concerned that these rigid rules and comments might harm her emotional development and confidence. Is this a typical approach for early childhood education, or should I consider a more flexible environment for her?