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Reception teacher put DS's drawing in the bin!

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Sheila · 17/12/2004 12:48

DS (4.75 yo) told me his teacher made him re-do his colouring of father xmas yesterday - she held up his first drawing in front of the whole class and asked "is this how we colour, children?" before putting it in the bin and making him do it again.

To me this sounds appalling - victorian in its severity. What does it matter how he coloured in his Santa? I can't see what he can have done to merit such humiliation.

Truth is I'm v. scared of his teacher myself and it's the last day of school. I have to try to catch her when I pick DS up this afternoon. I'm afraid I won't put DS's case well, may let him down by being cowardly and not standing up for him.

Need help! Anyone else dealt with a similar situation?

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sleepdeprived · 17/12/2004 13:53

Agree with Miriam2 - I'm no fan of colouring-in either - so anti-creative - but that's another topic. DON'T let this teacher get away with this or she'll do it again. I remember a teacher taking a clay model of our dog that my brother had made, and rolling it back into a ball. He never got over it - he still talks about it in his 30s! Public humiliation really can shatter a child's confidence.

SuzyStockings · 17/12/2004 14:05

Agree public humiliation of children is intolarble. it's a bug-bare of mine. I remember being humiliated in front of my class when I was little (probably about 7) because I had used the wrong 'there'/'their' in a story. I will never forget it. IMHO it is equivalant to bullying!

GeorginaAdventCalendar · 17/12/2004 14:07

Buy her this book for her christmas present?!

What a witch!

wickedwinterwitch · 17/12/2004 14:09

Bloody hell, what a nasty woman! Nothing merits doing this to a 4yo. But talk to her first, nicely, and see if she tells you the same thing he tells you. Sometimes a childs eye view of something isn't correct. Is he sure it was the bin? Not a drawer or something? If she did do this then I would tell her that you think it's heavy handed and inappropriate. Sorry if I'm repeating, haven't read the other posts, will do now. (Mind you, I think it's fine to put it in the bin when they're not looking and don't know about it, if I'd never done this I would have been drowned in a mountain of paper long before now!)

Christie · 17/12/2004 15:04

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Miriam2 · 17/12/2004 16:22

Tell us what happened, Sheila, did you manage to speak to the teacher?

Hulababy · 17/12/2004 16:26

How did it go?

Absoultly unnecssary and very nasty. Certainly not professional either.

pixiefish · 17/12/2004 16:29

Hia Sheila- what happened.
I'd never do this- horrible horrible cow

lockets · 17/12/2004 16:31

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TheHollyAndTheTwiglett · 17/12/2004 16:31

am and and

waiting to hear what teacher said and hoping it was a misunderstanding or not quite true

staarbar · 17/12/2004 16:42

[shocked]

That is terrible. There is no excuse for this kind of behaviour. Even if your DS wasn't following her instructions to the letter. Nobody who does this sort of thing should be teaching very young children. Children of any age for that matter. Let us know how you got on. You've every right to go and ask her what happened. Good luck

Staar

Socci · 17/12/2004 16:48

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tatt · 18/12/2004 05:01

hope you managed to catch her and talk to her the way she dealt with your child. If she did what he described then she deserves to be kept behind after class, doesn't she. And if she says it wasn't like that I'd check it out with another child or one of the teaching assistants if you know them. Inattentive young children are to be expected this close to Christmas. I'd have given him a new piece of paper and told him to start again.

Christmassbee · 18/12/2004 05:05

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tatt · 18/12/2004 05:07

sorry just realised that's what she did - but that's ALL I would have done, the rest isn't acceptable. I wouldn't take it up with the head because this close to Christmas the teachers may do something they wouldn't normally but I'd explain to the child that its a hard time of year for teachers too but they should tell you if it happens again.

tigermoth · 18/12/2004 06:13

sheila, hope our meeting went ok. I think you were right to approach it from the 'getting the facts straight' angle.

My oldest son (10) came home with an upsetting story about a teacher's treatment of him a few weeks ago as it happens. She seems to dole out physical punishments and although minor, they are not what my son has come to expect from teachers. He finds them humiliating and they physically hurt him. She's a new, part time teacher. I bought this up in a meeting with his older, other teacher and head teacher. I approached it from the 'getting the facts straight' angle.

I also insisted that the teachers to talk to my son in person so they could hear his side of the story. They took him aside the next day in school and he was able to tell them what he felt was wrong about this teacher's treatment of him, and they promised him they would look into it and talk to the teacher, which they did.

mumeeee · 18/12/2004 11:24

This is unacceptable. Most Schools just let the children have fun on the last day of term. It should not matter how a young child colours a picture and it should certainly not be shown to other children and thrown away. How did it go did you manage to talk to the teacher

TwasTheNightBeforeXmasOwl · 19/12/2004 02:09

my god if this had been my son i think i would have thrown myself, fists flying at the woman....or more restrained a severe tongue lashing..but thinking more sensibly yes having a word with her is definately the best thing to do. i surpose in my case it would really hit me hard as ds had an "undefined" problem with learning and has a special teacher who comes to see him. this sort of treatment would absolutely crush him and, i imagine, any child. probably best to hear teachers point of view but if no joy there i would definately make a complaint. how dare she! hope your meeting with her went well and maybe was explained?

happymerryberries · 19/12/2004 15:32

The teacher was very, very wrong to do that. However I think that threatening violence to a teacher for being in the wrong is also an awful thing to say. What sort of influence do you think this would have on your child? Far better to have a quiet, rational word with the teacher and put your case in a calm an civilised manner.

TwasTheNightBeforeXmasOwl · 20/12/2004 03:43

happymerryberries...if that was in response to my post it should have read "i would have felt like throwing etc etc. i did go on to say having a word is definately the best thing to do. of course im not telling anyone to go screaming into school and hit a teacher! i was only trying to make the point of thats how angry it would make me (nightowl promises to preview in future)

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