We’re currently in the process of moving our children from St Edmund's, so I wanted to share our experience for balance.
There are certainly things the school does well on the surface - lovely grounds, small class sizes, some nice staff - but unfortunately we’ve found the overall culture to be quite exclusionary if you don’t fit a certain mould. As a "working-class" family, we’ve felt increasingly pushed out over time, and attempts to raise concerns (particularly around bullying and safeguarding) were either brushed off or not taken seriously.
One example: at a recent classroom drop-in, our children and I were placed in a side room away from the rest of the class and other families. When I raised how isolating that was, it was dismissed without any real reflection. There’s also been an ongoing issue with another child bullying ours (their mum is head of the PTA and best mates with the Headteacher's wife), which the school has failed to address meaningfully. Feedback about teaching standards and basic errors (like incorrect spellings being sent home for 5-year-olds) was either ignored or met with defensiveness.
We also had concerns around photo permissions not being respected, our children’s images were shared publicly multiple times despite us clearly opting out.
When we tried to speak to the Junior School about our older child potentially joining, we were ignored - perhaps not coincidentally, the head is married to one of the parents who made it clear they “don’t want families like ours” at the school.
Ultimately, it’s become clear we’re not welcome, and we’ve decided to move our children to Kent College, where we hope they’ll be valued and supported properly.
Every family’s experience is different, but if inclusion, safeguarding, and respectful communication matter to you, I’d proceed with caution.