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Child going to uni in the day

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emmahearts · 28/03/2023 20:36

Hi, I am a single parent with an 18 year old going to uni in the day in September. The reason is we live about half an hour away. My daughter is taking out a grant as I can’t afford to pay for her. I just wondered as she will be living at home, ami entitled to any help for her as I will still have to feed her and she will be using electric and water ect.
Thank you

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Ratatouille1 · 28/03/2023 23:02

As someone who has advised a lot of sixth form students it is increasingly common for students to stay at home for university. My students are lucky to live in a city with an excellent redbrick university and post 1992 university that offers a lot of highly rated courses. The luxury of the university away from home experience is out of reach for a lot of students. The increasingly expensive of student accommodation is barely or not covered by a maintenance loan for middle income students.

Edmontine · 28/03/2023 23:43

The luxury of the university away from home experience is out of reach for a lot of students.

Yup. Exactly the two tier structure the Tories want for this pitiful country …

cestlavielife · 29/03/2023 09:45

SueVineer · 28/03/2023 22:19

no you can’t. You are obliged to keep her until she is out of full time education. You should still get some benefits for her (eg housing allowance)

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Obluged or expected?

She is an adult
Op does not have to buy her food

Op can certainly ask for some of the maintenance loan which is to cover the adult student living expenses and education related n costs like software or whatever

leaderofthelittles · 29/03/2023 10:03

This thread has blown my mind. Everyone really thinks then when your child turns 18 they are magically now nothing to do with you 😳

Edmontine · 29/03/2023 10:10

Your perception of ‘everyone’ is perhaps a little more elastic than the dictionary definition, @leaderofthelittles?

cestlavielife · 29/03/2023 10:20

Op is losing child benefit of xx ££
So she can discuss with dd

Dixiechickonhols · 18/09/2023 16:01

Her loan is for her living expenses. Do you know if she’s getting a full loan (you earn under £25,000)
You’ll need to agree with her how much board she’ll pay you.
Most students work as well in holidays or pt term time too.

catndogslife · 18/09/2023 16:33

Students don't pay council tax so you will still receive your single person reduction on that bill.
Our dd went to the local uni and had her loan and a PT job.
We mutually agreed that she would pay her share of bills - gas, electric, water and broadband and also a fixed monthly amount for food.

grinnunbarit · 21/09/2023 07:04

Marsyas · 28/03/2023 22:30

I agree that good thing about university is that it teaches independence in a safe and gradual way. You are living away from home some of the time but not all of the time, you have to do some independent things but there are also people around to help. I don’t know why that is being dismissed out of hand by PP.

It's being dismissed because the OP's child has clearly already made their decision about where they go to uni, and anyone criticising that is just being patronising and judgemental without being helpful to the op, who asked a specific question.

grinnunbarit · 21/09/2023 07:15

Edmontine · 28/03/2023 23:43

The luxury of the university away from home experience is out of reach for a lot of students.

Yup. Exactly the two tier structure the Tories want for this pitiful country …

It was always a two tier system. Pre the Tony Blair era of Higher Education expansion, students got a decent grant, but there were far fewer places. More places = less money to go around = higher individual contribution.

ShutTheDoorBabe · 21/09/2023 08:11

TranielPratspliff · 28/03/2023 20:39

Why is she going locally? I'd encourage her to move further away and to take out a full loan (my DC have all done this). The point of university is to become independent!

No it's not. You go to university to gain the qualifications you need to follow a certain career path. I stayed at home and went to uni on the train, which was only half an hour away too.

Op could your dd get a part time job and use the wage to help support herself or pay her way at home?

KnickerlessParsons · 21/09/2023 08:20

The point of university is to become independent!

No it's not. The point of university is to get a degree which will then lead to getting a job.

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