AIBU son left at school

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AIBU second time my son wasn't put on the school bus because he told the school he was pick up. He is 7 years old, last time a friend saw him and rung me, this time school rung to say am I not collecting as he was adamant he was to be collected. I was furious he's 7 I asked why didn't they check? Last year I emailed in a joking way what a mistake please check first but they did it again.
He used to be collected on a Tuesday for football, but the boy who did has left the school... so if they had asked they would have know..
But they took his word for it...

Write bus or car on your son’s arm in the morning. The school can’t be calling every parent to check if their kid is right or wrong about how they are getting home.

Maybe you should confirm at drop off if he is going to keep giving them the wrong information? It’s really not for them to phone and double check every time a child tells them something, they wouldn’t have time to teach if they had to constantly phone parents to check! Or maybe make sure your son is told each day he is to get the bus?

Schools should assume child's collection is as per the usual arrangement unless THE CHILD'S PARENT OR GUARDIAN tells them otherwise. No need to write on arm at all

Why would your son tell the school he's being collected when he's supposed to be on the bus?
You need to remind him each morning if he's getting confused.
Teachers seem to be expected to do far more than their job description entails these days.

I emailed before to say unless I say otherwise they are always on the bus (there and back) I'm more concerned they would believe him and not check with me.

It's really not for them to phone and double check every time a child tells them something

It really, really is. The school has a list and if a 7 year old tells them something different they should not take their word for it without checking. 7 year olds are unreliable and get confused.

And of course I understand they are busy I am too I work FT but a short email (this am to check) he said he knew all day

Exactly he's 7

When my DDs were picked up instead of school bus we had to inform the bus controller in person as we got them or send a written note if another person was collecting them. The bus couldn't leave until all children were accounted for... so that small children didn't get left behind accidentally.

What, you don't think basic safeguarding is a teachers job? I suggest you raise your expectations then

They absolutely should have contacted you. My 6 year old used to get the bus. If it ever changed I would always email school so they knew. Occasionally she would get confused and say she was getting collected and school would always phone me to check

Is he confused or trying to get his own way?
I'd put in an official letter, stating this is the second time now. Asking what is the normal procedure for safeguarding?

Do you then have to go get him?

My children used to get the bus to school from 4 to 11. Never would staff take the child's word for it, whatever the age and trust level. The parent would always be called to check.

He’s 7! Of course they should be checking with you. Absolutely ridiculous they haven’t.

I would be angry about this too. They should always check with an adult.

I agree op

It is annoying. But many 7 year olds would give the correct information. Given your son has been mistaken before i would hope they would check going forward. Hopefully they do now.

I would also be having a word with dc. Why did he think he was getting picked up?

Schools don't have the time to phone parents every time a child tells them something. If there are 20 children in a class and half of them say they are being collected, is it reasonable to expect the teacher to make ten phone calls, just to check?
Most seven year olds are capable of knowing whether they are meant to get on a bus or not.

If it goes against the child's usual arrangements, then yes they should check. Even if it is annoying and time consuming.

Would you be happy if your child said they were supposed to go with Random Adult, and the school let them?

Its the same principle. The school should follow the established arrangements unless told otherwise by a parent/guardian.

Yanbu I would be fuming. Of course they should check it is their job.

Our primary only accepted changes to travel arrangements from a parent or guardian. Children were not invited to suggest alternatives.

This a million times over.

Have had children at several schools and the teachers always have a list of who is being collected and if not the normal parent, by whom. No one takes the child’s word for it!

It’s basic safeguarding.

Of course they should call you! My children’s school have always contacted me if one of my children have said they are being collected as they don’t want to make these kind of mistakes.
I would be furious as this is a huge safeguarding issue.

School should have checked. That is their mistake. When did he tell them this?? Him knowing it (he ‘knew’ the wrong thing!) is not the same as telling it to a grown up. I don’t discuss how they’re getting home with my classes until it’s home time! Schools are run by humans. Home time is chaotic. When you’re dealing with potentially hundreds of kids (depends on school size) errors can happen. He was never at risk so I’d be less ‘furious’. Whoever he’s told has potentially remembered that he was being picked up on a Tuesday last year and therefore believed him.
But.. why has your 7 year old told them this? Has he forgotten? Has he deliberately lied? I’d be having words and impressing how important it is that he is honest. If he’s unsure he must say so. He is old enough to also remember that the boy has left school and that he always gets the bus now.