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is it o.k to have one in private and one in state?

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mummyloveslucy · 12/11/2007 18:36

My daughter is in a private school in the nursery. She is enjoying it and I'd like her stay there. The problem is it's a girls school and we are trying for another baby but wondered what to do if it's a boy.
Our local primary has a good reputation where as the only private school in the area that takes boys is not as good according to ofsted. Would it be fair for him to go to the state school? I know it may not even come to this as we may have another girl or may not be able to have another at all. I just want some oppinions as it's been on my mind (sorry about spelling).

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SenoraPostrophe · 12/11/2007 18:40

of course it would be OK for him to go to the state school.

it's never too early to worry about children's education. have you thought about which university he'll attend yet?

dooley1 · 12/11/2007 18:42

SP that was a bit unnecessary...

but yes, I would just worry about dd's schooling first

TheQueenOfQuotes · 12/11/2007 18:44

I would worry about DD first.......

BUT I went to a private school, my brother went to state....both schools suited us and there's no resentment from him towards me because I got the private education and he didn't.

NutterlybloodandgUts · 12/11/2007 18:45

Didn't we have this thread a few weeks back?

SofiaAmes · 12/11/2007 18:46

I had a friend who went to private school while her brothers went to the local comprehensive. They wanted to be there and she wanted to be at her school. They are now all three doctors and the brothers make loads more money than she does!!

TellusMater · 12/11/2007 18:46

Didn't you post about this before?

I think you really need not to stress about it

Evenhope · 12/11/2007 18:46

We had 2 in private and 2 in state. We picked the schools to suit the children. Not a problem IME

PillockOfTheCommunity · 12/11/2007 18:47

having a scary feeling of deja-vu here
didn't you start a thread with this OP a few weeks ago?

mamazon · 12/11/2007 18:48

your not even pregnant yet. try worrying about the child you have already and when and if you need to worry about a son then post again.

blueshoes · 12/11/2007 18:50

Hi mummyloveslucy, I should think it is ok if the school is suitable for the child, not whether it is state or private. Having 2 dcs of each sex myself, and with dd currently at a private all girls' primary with boys' schools being trickier in my area, I will try for both state as well as private when it comes to ds.

BTW, reading your post, I was getting a sense of dejavu: here

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mummyloveslucy · 12/11/2007 18:51

I'm hoping that our local school will have a nursery department by the time he would be ready. If not I'll chose the best one possible. dooley1 I don't need to worry about dd's schooling as she is very happy at a school that goes from 2-18 years. If she ever becomes unhappy I'll take her out of course as her happieness is why she's there in the first place. I'm only concerned that if we have a little boy I'd want him to be just as happy.

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LadyMuck · 12/11/2007 18:57

I don't wish to burst your bubble, but just because your dd is happy right now at the school she is at (she's still in nursery isn't she), doesn't mean that it will be the best school for her age 7, 11, 14 or 16. Schools can change enourmously with a change of headteacher for example (and it is unlikely you'll have the same head for 16 years). Equally falling numbers will also have an influence - schools may have to close/merge. And obviously nursery is a very different kettle of fish to reception, junior school etc. Not all of the gilrs will stay there for 16 years - new ones will join etc.

You can't plan ahead for a lot fo this, so I wouldn't angst about a potential son's education in 5 years times - there'll be plenty to occupy you it he meantime!

TellusMater · 12/11/2007 19:00

May I be really rude and ask why you are fretting so much about it? Before you even have a boy?

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mummyloveslucy · 12/11/2007 19:01

Yer I know I've asked this before.didn't think anyone would notice. I couldn't remember what was said. Sorry.

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StrawberryMartini · 12/11/2007 19:01

These mumsnetters know everything. Be afraid, be very afraid.

mamazon · 12/11/2007 19:04

then DONT split them into two schools.

you are likely to forget which one you sent where lol

LadyMuck · 12/11/2007 19:06

Can't believe that I misspelled enormously I know that I'm a lousy typist, but...

[off to put the little Mucks in the bath hanging head in shame...]

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mummyloveslucy · 12/11/2007 19:07

I'm not fretting tellusmater. I just wanted to know what people think about the situation. I talk to other mums at the school who are in the same situation and they worry about it much more than I do.

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mummyloveslucy · 12/11/2007 19:14

ha ha mamazon like the name by the way!

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Swedes2Turnips1 · 12/11/2007 20:34

DD in private and DS in state should be OK. So long as they don't mix at home. Don't let them eat meals together for example.

annh · 13/11/2007 21:43

If you are fretting so much over the education of an as-yet-to-be-conceived child, it seems strange that you can't remember what people advised on the previous thread which is less than a month old!

Lilymaid · 13/11/2007 21:59

We have sent DSs to a mixture - both were at state until 11, then DS1 got 7 years at top academic day school. DS2 went to local state school 11-16 and is now at independent sixth form. We look for the best school for the particular child at that stage.

inthegutter · 13/11/2007 22:02

Ermmmm...... can't quite believe I'm answering this thread again. Wait and see if you get pregnant. The wait and see if you have a boy. And then when the time comes for school, send them where they'll be HAPPY. The fact that the other mothers at your daughter's school are worrying about it more than you says it all to me. Sounds like they've got their priorities wrong.

LaDiDaDi · 13/11/2007 22:04

I thought I was going mad when I read the op wondering "I've read this before, reallly recently too, and everyone thought the op had too little to think about.."

Judy1234 · 13/11/2007 22:13

I think you should treat them the same but we knew twins both boys one of whom went to boarding school and one day private school which seemed a bit extreme a difference.

I wouldn't always go by ofsted. I'd ask where the boys who leave the private school get into and how many get academic scholarships to their next schools. That's often a better test than an ofsted report.

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