[quote hippoplotimus]@Schoolchoicesucks yes I would consider moving for our dc education and moving anywhere, I'd rather have a house than school fees though that's the only thing I do know.
I do want to live somewhere nice ie I don't want to live somewhere that everyone knows is awful just for a school, even if it is amazing. And I have to afford a house. I really want a house with a reasonable garden, I don't want to have to pay £££ for a tiny little house. I'm done with the tiny house living scenario.
School fees are also considered for a mortgage so all in all I can't see an independent secondary school happening anyway.[/quote]
In that case, doesn't it make more sense to move into the catchment of an excellent comprehensive, with non-catchment grammars within commuting distance?
You need the Good Schools Guide, I think.
But most grammars don't have a catchment, while most excellent comprehensives do have a de facto catchment, so it would seem to make sense to start from that point.
And also a realistic assessment of what you're looking fo in a move.
You see, you could do the 'comprehensive and/or grammar' in London. Lots of people do. But I think you really - deep down - want to move out of London.
And a bit of you is not really confronting that. So you seem to be treating the school choice thing as a way of handing over your decision about moving to Fate.
I don't think you can do that. There are lots of grammars without catchments in the U.K. - bug you can't have your daughter sitting tens of tests in order to then decide where to move.
It's not realistic.
Honestly, you have lots of options. In the nicest way possible, can I suggest you sit down with a piece of paper, you list what you think are the challenges you're facing, what your ideal solutions might be, what your main priorities are, and then have a look at school options.
The U.K. is a big and varied place. If you're really considering a major move, you are free to really think about what you will want, what will really enrich your life.
Once you've narrowed that down, there really will be room to look at the educational side of things within that narrower remit.
And the Good School Guide is very helpful.
(As is Mumsnet.)