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Private nursery V State pre-school? HELP!

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dropinthe · 07/09/2005 12:41

My DS1 has been attending a private Asquith Court run Nursery since a month before his second birthday-he attends two full days a week from 8 am to 4.15-he is well established there,has made good friends with both children and carers alike.
He is now 3 and 9 months-due to go to primary school next September.My problem is that all the mothers I know are sending their kids to pre-school five days a week,free of charge and I'm getting vibes that this is what I should be doing too to get him into the "schooling structure" of life.
I am struggling with 2 things here-on the one hand I don't want him to go to a pre-school for 5 mornings a week-he's going to spend the next 10/12 years doing that.On the other hand I am concerned about the amount of schooling he is actually getting at his present nursery.They are rather slow on the uptake of development charts etc and I always have to push them to tell me how he is doing.He should be starting to read and write more which he isn't and recognsing some letters and numbers.
What should I do? Its not like I work in the days he is at nursery and even after the Early years grant we are paying £120.00 per month to keep him there-I just don't want to disrupt him for disruptions sake but I also don't want him to fall behind!
Sorry for how long!

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dropinthe · 07/09/2005 14:11

Thanks for all the advice-I really do feel better about keeping him where he is for the moment and might look into whether I can start him at the school pre-school 6 months before-does anyone know if that is possible or are there set entrance times?

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clary · 07/09/2005 14:22

dropinthe I echo foxinsocks, often it?s about the social aspect at pre-school, meetign friends they will go to school with etc.
Also the pre-school will probably include a teacher (unlikely at daycare) which you may appreciate.
OTOH I wd say that no-one need be concerned about a pre-schooler knowing letters, numbers etc. Far more important before startign school is can they get dressed after PE, can they use the loo alone, put coat on, socialise, play independetly etc.
It?s yr choice but persoanlly I jumped through hoops to get mine into a fab state-run nursery school.
Re the 5 mornings a week - can you not take up a part-time place?
Hula, not to say with this that there is any issue with private nurseries - working mums and dads do find taking up a part-time place really hard.
Re staring him later in the year, why not contact the pre-school and see what they say? How about a day at Asquith and two sessions at pre-school?

Wordsmith · 07/09/2005 14:41

Dropinthe - your nursery will have to have filled in development charts (whether it's private or not - I think most day nurseries are private aren't they?) like Foxinsocks describes. If you want to see them just ask, although at my Ds's nursery they had parents' afternoons (not very often) where they went through them with us. These are then sent on to the school and form part of their continuing records.

Re starting him at preschool 6 months before - I don't see why not, you can start when you like usually. I started DS1 at the school pre-school in Jan 04, and he started school in Jan 05. I would have done it later, but I was having a baby in April and wanted him to get settled in before then. Like I say he stayed at Day Nursery too.

If the pre-school isn't attached to the school, I would say don't bother. Your child probably gets all the stimulation he needs from nursery. The only reason I took him to preschool too was to get to know the kids and the school. The pre-school kids had extra visits to the school reception class in the tern before they started school, and they went to see the KS1 christmas play and so on, so by the time they started school they already knew the building, the teachers and most of their classmates.

It doesn't always matter, some kids will get on whatever they do and can get by without being 'part of the crowd', but to my DS1, it was a very important part of his personality - his friendships are more important to him than his family, I think! And yes, I did notice a difference in settling in between the preschool kids and the ones who hadn't been, sorry.

However, like someone just said earlier (sorry can't remember who), by the first half term it's all evened out anyway.

dropinthe · 07/09/2005 14:48

Thanks wordsmith-my ds1 likes to always feel "part of the crowd"-he has some older cousins and he copies them in everything they do-he wants to dress like them/play football with them. I think it will be quite important for him to join before he has to go there all day for 5 days a week next September,(still can't quite believe he is going to do that next year-he is still my BABY! Sniff! Sniff!),to establish some relationships.

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Wordsmith · 07/09/2005 14:56

He'll always be your baby (tell him that when he's 16!). good luck whatever you decide.

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