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Will my son be teased for bringing in a packed lunch to secondary school?

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tigermoth · 02/09/2005 08:22

I get the impression that at my son's new secondary school, children don't bring in packed lunches.

When we were shown around last team, there was no mention of packed lunch arrangements. We were shown the canteen, and its varied menu was really promoted by the staff, but we were not shown any eating areas for those who had their own food.

When my son went for his induction day day, he was expressly told to bring in lunch money for the canteen.

ds is definitely under the impression that bringing packed lunches into school is uncool and few children do it, if any.

Last term, all the children in his Y6 primary school class was given a 'getting used to secondary school' magazine. It was apparently written by other children, with lots of tips about settling into big school. In the 'do's and don'ts' list it stated 'don't arrive on your first day with a pack of little sandwiches made by your mum'

Now I am happy for ds to have some canteen meals, but they are definitely more expensive than the packed lunches I would give him and I would like to feel I could send him in to school with a packed lunch sometimes as well.

The canteen menu, while it contains healthy salads and 'meat and two veg' meals, also serves chips, hot dogs and donuts. On his induction day, my son told me with much delight, how he had feasted on the biggest hot dog he'd ever seen followed by a large donut.

He says he will choose the healthy options, and admittedly, he does like a lot of 'proper' food.... but I am not convinced he will make the right choices when faced with donut temptation He has a big appetite and often used to ask for second helpings of school dinners (especially puddings), until I stopped it by giving him a packed lunch each day.

Is this the end of my influence over his lunch time choices?

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mumeeee · 02/09/2005 19:31

My daughters all take packed lunches except on PE or days when they have a lot of equipment to carry. Lots of thier friends also do this. They are allowed to eat thier packed lunches in the canteen or out on the field if it is fine.

nutcracker · 02/09/2005 19:38

My friend used to bring 2 lots of sarnies and I took money for canteen. We would share the sarnies and then with my money i'd buy us chocolate and a magazine

Tortington · 02/09/2005 20:06

i started giving mine money becuase i thought they would be teased - you were teased at my school if you had a packed lunch. however the culture of the twins friends are that they all take a packed lunch but then i am in the middle of laura ashley mummy land.

my eldest there fore gets butties too - he got money for the first three years - consquently he chucks the butties in the hedge and eats the rest at break having no dinner to speak of

but them thats his tough luck.

send money to begin with

roisin · 02/09/2005 21:19

I would estimate about 30% of children at our secondary school take packed lunches. There are separate areas for them to eat their lunches, and picnic benches in the quad for the summer. Many children choose packed lunch because they don't like the noisy crowded dining room, and the 'stress' of choosing a meal at the cafeteria.

£2.00-£2.50 would get a very good meal at our school (including a dessert or fruit, but not including a drink - water is free!)

Our school has very late lunches, but they also sell bacon butties, toast and so on at break time, but that adds significantly to the daily cost if you use them.

nutcracker · 02/09/2005 22:28

I don't remember the credit card thing Cod.

I'm sure a few of my friends took sandwhiches in. Don't remember many of the lads taking them though they always had money.

jampots · 02/09/2005 22:29

at my dd's school (and i think pretty much every school in thte borough) they use a dinner swipe card - you send a cheque into school and they add the credit to the card. Then also you can get a print out of the food they've bought. Also apparently helps to cut down on bullying/stealing

jampots · 02/09/2005 22:30

also dd and her pals take packed lunch on the days they're last in for dinners

Skribble · 02/09/2005 22:33

I wouln't make things difficult for him let him choose. If he goes for unhealthy stuff at least you can make up for it at home.
I used to have a cheese puff and a half pint of milk, my friend had a cream egg and a can of coke every day. We started going to the local shop and it was potnoodles or sausage rolls.
The food in schools are much better now and the credit card system seems quite commen means they are not carrying cash every day less likely to go to local shop.

Janh · 02/09/2005 22:40

DS2 has a school dinner on his priority day (Y7 go first on Mon, Y8 on Tues etc) and packed lunch the other days, except when the bread is mouldy/stale/run out or I can't be arsed, then he gets a bonus one!

It is cash at his school, not particularly good value and he tends to eat stodge anyway, so I feel his packed lunch is better for him (usually peanut butter sandwich, 1 apple or some grapes, 1 frube and some fresh juice). I think they eat in their classrooms, will have to check tomorrow.

Agree with the others that money for lunch the first week or so is a good idea, tigermoth, then see how the land lies. Could you quietly check with his friends' mums to see what they are planning? (Could be all the boys are saying "all the other mums are paying for school dinners" and nobody wants to really!)

Janh · 02/09/2005 22:42

Oh, and on football training day he eats no lunch at all

starlover · 02/09/2005 22:46

just wanted to add a big DITTO to all who suggested both!
that way he has a choice.
or, you could buy him a prepacked sandwich etc so that it looks like he has bought it

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MrsEffervescent · 03/09/2005 23:42

just skimmed through this thread tigermoth...and i'm with you.

my son actually chose to take a packed lunch on his first day (yesterday)...as he knew friday was 'curry day' and he cannot stand that.

anyhow...back in july i gave him £3 on the induction day...and he used it all.

I worked out that if he had 'hot lunches' that he'd still need to have bit for the vending machine...incase there was nothing he liked at the canteen...and i freaked out when i realised like you that could be £5 .....i cannot do that.

so when he chose to take a packed lunch i was VERY relieved. He took a £1 for vending stuff...and came home with 50p!!!!

at his school thay are only having 30 mins for lunch- they finish at 3 instead of 4.40 (they are also starting 10 mins earlier each morning)...and tom actually said last nigh when i asked him whether he wanted packed lunch again...that he said he NEVER wanted hot lunches cos the queue to get the food was terribly long...and cos they only get 30 mins...he said he'd never eat his meal in time.... he IS a slow eater..... and does need a full 30 mins to eat...so unless the queue settles down (which i cannot see as yesterday was just the 'nebies'...and next week it's the whole school!!!)..then i think i am 'glad' to say he will be happier taking packed lunch!!!!

Phew!!!

swedishmum · 04/09/2005 21:51

Fortunately packed lunches are what everyone takes at dd's new school apparently. Pasta salads are very popular they tell me ... but there again it is all girls so maybe chips aren't so cool.

soyabean · 05/09/2005 20:55

My ds' school also does cashless catering like Cod's, and they arent allowed out at lunchtime. He doesnt take packed lunch as it wd add to his already overloaded bag.
I give him £1.50 a day which is plenty for a baked potato or sandwhich or plate of pasta, and once or twice a week he gets a pudding too. But I'm not subsidising crisps and fizzy drinks. I think they cd spend however much they were given, quite easily, and I know he gets less than most others but he can always take fruit or a breaktime snack from home.
Tigermoth, I wd echo the others, let him have money the first week and see how it goes.

WideWebWitch · 05/09/2005 20:58

I've only read your first post tigermoth, how horrifying if it's true re packed lunch being uncool. And shocking too if they have plenty of unhealthy options, I just don't think they should offer them.

cod · 05/09/2005 20:59

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tigermoth · 10/09/2005 08:21

well, he's had money all this week. I gave him £10.00 on wednesday to last three days, said he could keep any over as pocket money. So if he bought any of his own food into school, he'd easily be able to do this, as school lunches cost about £2.50. By Friday, he was complaining about bottled water costing £1.00 to buy from the canteen, so took in his own water from home.

Really shocked to find out that water (water!) cost that much at school.

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KBear · 10/09/2005 08:23

Ring the school and question £1 for a bottle of water - that is outrageous. Doesn't cost that in the newsagent and that's probably the dearest place to buy it.

(Hello Tigermoth BTW - we've finally been to the splash park after school this week - the kids loved it!).

tigermoth · 10/09/2005 09:09

Glad you christened the splash park! It's not too bad, is it? - the cafe could do with more stock, though.

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KBear · 10/09/2005 13:01

It was great except some woman let her toddler toddle in the pool bit with no nappy on and said toddler did a poo so they had to close it! Lots of disappointed children (and mums) I can tell you!

KBear · 10/09/2005 13:03

sorry for the hijack!

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