Can I stop divorce court order from continuing?

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I filed for ancillary relief order several months ago so my divorce is currently before a judge. It's all getting very difficult and I want to stop the court order completely and halt the divorce as my circumstances have also changed.
Can I do this?

Just go to the hearing and say that you want to resolve between you now and will bring back your agreement for final ratification?

I'm not a lawyer but would hope judge only gets involved where needed and would be happy if parties can agree between them. It does need to go before a judge in the end

OP with respect, you said that your husband had not responded and that is why the ancillary order was submitted.

Who is to say that he will not revert to this tactic if you stop the proceedings. Was is previous stalling because he didnt want to get divorced, or was unwilling on a fair split?

The ancillary order is to ensure a fair division of assets, hence them needing to get valuations for everything. Have you taken advice as to what a fair split actually looks at, including everything like savings / assets/pensions etc.

That will still need to be done, whether its through the courts or by yourselves. The court just adds a layer of protection for you.

By all means ask for it to be put on hold until your MH is improved, but I really would keep the court ordered split in the back pocket for now, because you have no proof that your ex husband will play by the rules, especially given he previously tried to ignore the proceedings

OP, I am a bit worried about you, what's causing the distress? It is hard to tell from what you've said whether it is to your benefit to stop/pause the divorce proceedings or not.
-Who instigated the split?
-Which of you stands to 'gain/lose' financially?

• who's idea is it to stop now?

My concern, and it may be without foundation, is that you are vulnerable and under influence/manipulation. I hope not but is he causing or creating the distress which means you want to stop?
Will a divorce mean a transfer of assets ? If so it is probably wisest, especially if you're not feeling strong and clear headed, to continue with the solicitor and court route. Sorry if it out between the two of you while you're struggling rings alarm bells that you will come away without your fair share.

Please pause the pause process to talk it through with someone you trust (not STBXH) to be sure this is the best step for you at this stage.

Sorry for all the questions, I don't expect answers but things to think about...

' Sorting it out' not Sorry if it out
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Based on my experience the most important thing about the divorce is the financial settlement.

If I was your ex the last thing I would want is the divorce dragged out as I assume he wants to get on with his life and end any financial ties with you