DH and I were having our usual argument about having another baby (I would like one more, he doesn't) at the weekend and he admitted he doesn't feel that excited about being a father.
DH's father won't exactly win any prizes for being father of the year, he divorced his mother when dh was 10 and didn't see him again until he was 25 and before ds was born dh always said he wanted to be the father his father wasn't, ie always there, never missing a football game/sports day/school play.
I think he found the reality of having a new baby tough, the fact that it didn't involve him much must have hit him hard. Maybe I was guilty of taking charge a bit too much, but since I've returned to work dh gives ds his bedtime milk and puts him to bed three times a week and he's brilliant with him.
Our son has been a fanastic baby, but dh says he can't take the stress of another baby, but we had almost no stress. His counter argument on that one is what if we had a baby that was hard work?
He says he's selfish and he's trying to change but another baby would mean more of our freedoms would go. I say they're gone already because of ds, but he said another child would make it worse.
A part of me thinks he's being a teensy bit immature thinking it's all cute football games in the park and fishing trips, after all motherhood isn't all hugs kisses and "I wuv you mummy" either. Maybe I'm being too harsh. I'd very much appreciate a male perspective on this, sorry for rambling.