I know MN want the F4J theme to die down but I want to write something in case any of them read this.
They're asking what else they can do to help fathers so my thoughts.
When you have a child.
Don't work long hours.
Both go part-time if you can.
Take days off when your child is sick.
Don't assume your career comes before your partners.
Change the nappies, obviously you can't breast-feed but there's lots of other stuff you can do as part of a team. Get up in the night and help.
Go to school-plays, parents evenings, sports days, fetes, doctors appointments.
When your partner is on maternity leave, when you come in from work everything is equal you've both done a day at work. This works if the father takes a years paternity leave as well.
Ime mothers don't naturally know what to do with first babies just like fathers, so get stuck in and learn.
If you're going to carry on going out, working long hours and not splitting the child-care if you separate you are not going to get 50-50 shared-care.
If you want that, do it before the separation. I would have said there's more chance of the relationship working anyway.
This is from a father who has shared-care.