The Thought Process Of The Sex Of The Baby... Discuss

[SlevinKelevra]

Afternoon All,

As an expectant Father, naturally we?re coded to go into the 20-week-scan believing the finer half is carrying the next footballing prodigy.

However, being told that you?re little soccer ace is in fact a girl? My assumption was going to be that of despair ? but in reality ? I was elated just to know she is healthy.

However, the new thought process is that of ?life?. I grew up with one older brother ? and we were terrors.

My own assumption is that boys are more difficult because they like climbing, scrapping and being little gits.

But all I can think about now is that I'm going to have to go on all her dates ? and if any ?smelly boys? so much as look at her, I'm going to have to beat them up ? regardless of age/prison sentence.

Is it a protective thing? Am I being more protective because it?s a girl?

Although ill never get to have a kick around with her (although, you never know) from a Fathers point of view ? whats going to be there for me?

Do I play the DaddysGirl angle and look forward to taking her shopping?

Do I take a side gig and start coaching local kids football to get my ?baby boy? fix?

I'm not sure where my head is supposed to be at ? but at the moment, it?s a dark place where I'm beating up kids and lurking 3 rows back in the cinema making sure that rotten ?Darren Briggs? doesn?t try and ?make the move? on my precious naïve daughter!

Or am I simply taking crazy pills?

oh forget the parenting books. They are designed to make you anxious and buy a load of stuff. Just your dw/dp and MN will cover 95% of it.

and you're still not calming down!

perhaps the Vulcan Nerve Pinch would do it ?

Jeez, don't focus on your DC's chromosomal make-up; just plan to get to know the new person who will be coming to live with you.

I have a DS and a DD. And I grew up with a Dsis and no DBros - but did not assume that my DS, my elder DC, would be an alien species to me interested only in playing football. Sure, he's developing a good kick (but hockey and cricket are the ball sports of choice in this house so those are the directions in which he - and DD - will probably be encouraged, at least initially). And, yes, he does a lot of running around and shouting but not, TBH, any more than his younger DSis, who, to be frank, seems the more physically adventurous and unafraid of the two.

As well as what you might see as typical "boy things", my DS loves cooking with me, crafty things and gardening. My DD, although only 16mo is currently obsessed with things with wheels and Thomas the Tank engine.

Just don't weigh your DD down with your expectations I.e. don't buy a whole heap of dolls and sparkly pink stuff whilst automatically neglecting to help her learn to kick a ball or go for a ride on a steam train. Just see where you go and enjoy finding out what she enjoys.

Good luck and have fun.

I think your problem seems to be your bizzare social circle where all girls are this homogeneous gloop!

I am about to have my fourth and final child. I will have two of each. I currently have a son and two daughters. My son is a very bookish, science mad, lovable geeky boy who isn't really into sports unlike his dad. My eldest daughter is the wildest child you're likely to meet (broken bones, love of rope swings, fantastic at sport, exceptionally bright, no interest in girly pursuits of any kind) My second daughter is what you would consider a typical girl but we just consider a different child to our other two who are also different from each other.

I wait with interest to see how my second son will be. I have preconceptions or expectations, nor does his father. He will be who he is and his gender will just be one factor in that.

No preconceptions or expectations.