Blended family, my son lives with us, DP's daughter lives with her mum.
Normal routine: Son goes to his dads every other weekend, DP's daughter comes to us every Weds and every other weekend.
Situation: I have chronic lung disease. It's very rare, similar to CF. I nebulise, have IV drugs through a portacath and require regular physio to stay well. Despite all this I can lead a fairly normal life (normal to me anyway, I won't be running any marathons anytime soon!)
I'm isolating for 12 weeks for obvious reasons, CV will kill me, there is no two ways about it. DP has chosen to isolate with me bar getting groceries, we can run our business from home.
Son's dad has resigned himself to facetime for the next 12 weeks and DP had agreed with his ex that he wouldn't see his daughter (facetime only) for 12 weeks too.
DP has decided he can't go 12 weeks without seeing his daughter, I get it, I do. But not sure why I should risk my life for him to see her (she's staying with her mums boyfriend who has two kids who are going back and forth between their mum and dad) so I said he'll have to move out if he wants to do that. Is that bad? I'm not an unreasonable person but I'm petrified. If he moves out I'll have to rely on others/volunteers to bring food and I'm sure there's people more worthy than me. His daughter is safe, and well, and it's not forever?
I'm also 8 weeks pregnant, with our IVF baby. I guess I'm asking if I'm being unreasonable, if there's another way round it or if I should stick to my guns.