Alone at this time

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After the news that we should all be limiting all contact non essential I am starting to panic a bit.
I live on my own, our job is all WFH for the next 12 weeks. I haven’t really heard from any of my friends other than to talk about how awful it is to be in this situation.

I’m not going to be on anyone’s essential list. My father is 90 so I can’t visit him. My mother lives in another country. I haven’t heard from my sister.

Am I just going to be trapped on my own, I already feel sad enough in life that I don’t have a family and I don’t have children.

And this just highlights it all, I’ve worked so hard to be busy and relatively fulfilled in life, but this has just wiped a lot of that away, All be it temporarily, because I’m not anyone’s main concern.

Someone said to me yesterday that it will be so much easier for me to self isolate as I have no one to worry about other than myself!

Don’t get me wrong, I am more worried for others who might not make it like my dad. And those that will lose their livelihoods (although that is a distinct possibility in my industry)

It’s my birthday on Monday, I don’t even care about birthdays, but I feel especially upset about this one.

Is there anyone else in this situation, perhaps we could all support each other!? Start a thread together. I can’t be the only one feeling like this.

staring so far airline are only offering refunds up until the day before we're due to travel - you couldn't write it!yep I will have to go in regardless.just wish they'd test us if have symptoms as otherwise can see a lot of the workforce being off self-isolating unnecessarily with a common cold and therefore not being there to help our patients! I will continue to do my duty but don't want me or my family to die. We are not in at risk category but still can't help but worry x

@CocoKoko123

Haha I thought your real name was Andrew and you’d let it slip.

Shit! That’s awful about your holiday. Really no refunds. Surely there is something you can do? It’s a real shame, Japan is the one place I would absolutely love to go to!

Also must be very worrying to be frontline, I have so much admiration for people who have to put themselves in that awful situation. Must be really tough

Sorry don't know where 'Andrew' came from in my post!i am frontline nhs staff so am worried about catching it or transmitting it from/to patients at work and then bringing it back to my children/parents.also have spent £££ on a holiday to japan next month and airline not currently offering refunds...

Oh sorry @mrsSchadenfreude

That must be really tough. Thank god we have skype and FaceTime these days

I bought 2 bottles of whiskey from amazon! That’ll keep me going. I also have an allotment. So I’m going to spend time there. But I rarely see anyone

If my mother dies it is unlikely that I’ll get back for her funeral. I’m resigned to not seeing DH and the DC for at least four months. Healthcare here is atrocious.

I’m overseas with DH and the DC back in UK. We thought it better that the DC had one parent with them. My mother is 86 and self isolating. She lives in the arse end of nowhere and her neighbours are in their 80s too.

Is there an isolation thread? I’m not sure I can deal with lots of things about children etc. I can’t have them now, so it’s a bit too sad to hear about it all.

This is really sad OP, if I knew someone who felt like this I'd try to help keep their spirits up/chat etc.

There is a support in isolation thread which might be good for you to join.

Can you share roughly where you are, in case anyone is local?

@YoungBritishPissArtist
Love your user name btw

Happy Birthday for Monday.

Not in the same boat as you - I have children/parents to worry about - but we're all on the same boat worrying about the effect of this virus on all our lives. Take care.

Glad there are some people in the same boat and some lovely kind words!! I feel better already.
I’m usually a strong person who can get through anything but I just broke down.

I managed to get out of a really long term shitty relationship 4 years ago, but since then it’s been a long hard struggle and I thought I was really getting back on my feet.

Let’s all support each other!

I have 1.5 toilet rolls left. I ended up stealing one from my last day at work!! Tomorrow I will go on a proper hunt.

Happy birthday for Monday!
We have a local group that has been set up in our area, offering to give people a daily call if they're feeling isolated etc. Is there one you could find online in your area - Either receiving a call or calling others?

Happy to chat on here! If we have to fully isolate, I will be alone with a young toddler as DH will leave and stay elsewhere, he cannot stop working.

I’m in the same boat, I live alone, no DP or DC. Hope we can all find mutual support on here

I’m in a similar situation OP. No parents or kids. I do have a DP but we don’t live together and as he is in a high risk group I’m not sure about whether I will see him again for the next 14 weeks.

Just wanted to say i cannot relate as have family but happy birthday for monday and its a good idea to start a support thread

staring welcome Andrew am happy to support you through your thread. This whole thing is a nightmare and affecting all of us in different ways.feel free to use your thread and me and others will provide remote support where we can I'm sure. You can't be the only one in this position xx