Did you go into ttc expecting to get pregnant quick?

[Timbits007]

I’m just wondering, how many people actually started their trying to conceive journey and expected to be pregnant within a short amount of time?

Did you expect it to happen within a month or two? Did it take longer than you expected?

Or did you go into it expecting it to take out to a year and was quite chill about it not happening early on?

Yup! And zero awareness given to how widely it can vary between people as to how long it takes, usually for reasons totally unknown! I wish I had had a more honest education. My journey has been rough and it's been worse because I didn't know my situations were even a real possibility.

I started getting a bit anxious when I hadn't conceived after about eight months, but ended up getting pregnant with DC1 after trying for eleven months. It was then an almighty shock to conceive DC2 first time of trying, seven months postpartum, while still breastfeeding. DC3 took around four months, I think. I know we took a break from trying in October and November because I preferred not to have a summer born baby, and I got pregnant at Christmas so he's September born. Looking back that was a bit daft really, a summer baby would've been just fine if it had happened.

First time I was in my late 20s and expected it to be fairly quick but perhaps not first cycle. I did conceive first cycle so was a bit surprised. That pregnant went to term.

Second time, early 30s, I was kind of expecting it to be first cycle based on previous experience, so I was a bit surprised to get a negative test after the first cycle. It ended up taking 6 months, followed by a miscarriage at 5 weeks and then I was very fortunate to fall pregnant again straight away after the miscarriage - I didn’t even have a period in between. We weren’t tracking anything rigorously, just letting it happen naturally. I remained quite relaxed as I knew we were still well within normal timings.

I agree.

In sex ed you are basically told sex = baby. Nothing about infertility or loss

I hold a lot of anger for the lack of education we're given about trying to conceive and how complicated it can be! I think the school sex ed system has a lot to answer for when people get stressed or anxious after only 3 or 4 months trying.

I think if I was actually told and it was normalised how common miscarriages were I might of not felt like my world came crashing down when I experienced one. I wish more was taught as schools, 1 in 4 pregnancies end in loss and 1 in 8 go through infertility.

Nope this time round I expected to get pregnant within a year or so as I've always had issues in that dept but then fell pregnant in the second month of trying and was not emotionally prepared for that!

Absolutely! I had no idea a missed miscarriage was a thing when I had my first loss. It completely blindsided me.

It never occurred to me that I would get pregnant on my first round of IVF. But I did. And had embryos frozen. When DS was 6 months old I went back to use up the frozen embryos and get on to a fresh cycle and my DD joined us 9 months later. I was very very lucky

I went to catholic school and had unprotected sex right before we got married as we thought sod it let’s try now and oh so naively believed it would happen first time.

5 years of trying and one round of ivf later I finally fell pregnant. Turns out I literally cannot get pregnant unless an embryo is put in me!