Christmas baby?

[Faye12345]

Hello all. Does anyone worry about getting pregnant March/April as its likely a Christmas baby may occur? My niece is a Xmas day baby and hates it! DH and I are both summer so lucky

[justtheonethen]

Not a stupid question at all.

I'm a teacher and so initially thought carefully about best due date for Mat leave, not summer baby etc. It never occurred to me to avoid a Christmas baby (although I do have a friend who hates her Christmas birthday) but same sort of thing. Now though, after 18 months of ttc, I couldn't care less when my due date is as long as I get one!

I did consider not ttc the month that would have meant I would be have a due date of my sister's wedding but in the end I did continue as I would have (totally irrationally) always thought that might have been the month.

[nataliefruit]

I don't think it's a stupid question - there are fewer doctors and midwives working on Christmas day & boxing day so God forbid if something went wrong a lady might not be able to get help quite as quickly.

[HoggleHoggle]

I have a ds who was born 5 days before Christmas. It is a bit shit tbh but he's going to have to embrace it

I've just had a tube removed after an ectopic pregnancy...I will be waiting a while to recover before ttc again so the decision will be made for me this time.

[jamtartandcustard]

Last year I fell pregnant, wasn't trying and was very much a surprise, was due 14th December. Ds arrived on the 26th. i now have no sympathy for anyone who complains of a December birthday. He could have come in November, at 37 weeks, I was more then happy to have him then, but nope he held on in there. His own fault for having a birthday so close to Christmas
Though I do recall lying on that hospital bed at 23.45 on the 25th screaming "I'm not having this baby before midnight" (he was born 00.37am on the 26th). Anyway my point is if it happens it happens there's not a lot can be done. You could be due in Feb but have a premature baby. life doesn't end just because you have a Christmas baby (btw 2 of my other children are 10th and 17th Jan and the other in Feb so winter babies is just what I do)

[Lucinda15]

I have thought about it, not that it would stop me TTC but I do think it is something to consider - for me it's more of a practical thing. We are lucky to have one DS already (4yo) who is a late November baby. We are by no means an extravagant family - but we find the cost of a birthday/party shortly followed by Christmas really takes some careful budgeting and saving and planning, months ahead. We have been TTC #2 for a year now and had 2 mc's along the way, and now looks like I have PSOS. So we understand how some people wouldn't consider birth month any reason to delay TTC, especially if you have problems TTC or have Had losses. The most important thing is a happy healthy baby. I think we all want that.

And we won't delay TTC, we will be thrilled to conceive and have a baby whatever the month. but we have both given each other a look and know we have to brace ourselves if we fall pregnant in the next couple of months.

But bring it on I say

[Moomin37]

Like Pixa I'm having fertility treatment and worry that I'll never have children at all. Perhaps if you're fertile, or think you are, you may worry about this, but I don't have that luxury.

[Upthenoonoo]

My Ds was born 27th Dec and he adores his birthday (just turned 11), I wouldn't have even thought about it tbh!

[Pugmummy87]

I was born Jan 2nd and I hate it. I don't think it's a stupid question although I could see why it might appear as insensitive to those who have fertility issues.

I think it's personal choice at the end of the day and I'm sure that most people even if they did try and avoid a Xmas baby, if they were struggling to conceive, they probably wouldn't care anymore and carry on regardless.

Personally, as much as I hate my birthday, I will still carry on ttc as the desire to have a child is more important than the birthday. Plus knowing how crap my birthday is, I would make every effort to ensure my child never felt like I do.

[SuchaJem]

My birthday is 6 days before Christmas and I love it.

That said I wouldn't really want it any closer or just after.

When it comes to us and ttc I hadn't really thought about it too much but think we will continue as conceiving and having a happy healthy baby is more important than when it's birthday is.

I can see why others might pause for a month or two. Personal choice isn't it?

[ZazzlesTheCat2]

Not a stupid question

I'm a Xmas baby - I love and hate it for the same reason (people tend to forget)

Wouldn't stop me in the slightest having a Xmas baby myself. :)

[LittleGreyCatwithapinkcollar]

I stopped trying in March with my dd for this reason. As it turns out her 2nd bday well be on Easter Sunday instead!

[Noggie]

I have two dds with birthdays near Christmas. It's not ideal but I'm just delighted to have them :)

[BeautifulLiar]

Not a stupid question at all! I'd have hated to have had a Christmas baby/January baby. I think it would only be magical when it was born. The following years would just be a pain.

[MaryPoppinsPenguins]

I would avoid January though... Everyone is broke, it's the most miserable month.

[MaryPoppinsPenguins]

How rude to suggest that it's a stupid question...

A lot of people feel this way. I actively tried to have a Christmas baby... (Literally couldn't have got further away with the 25th June though!! )

My DH and I both have December birthdays and we love it!

[Heatherbell1978]

Not a stupid question. My brothers were born 27th and 29th Dec and I'm 12th Jan. I hate having a January birthday and my brothers hate theirs. DS1 was born in the summer, same day as DH!! So I would actively try and avoid potential sibling sharing same birthday as me!

[Loki17]

Another vote for 'not a stupid question and get where you are coming from but wouldn't stop me from trying'.

[PenguinVox]

I don't think this is a stupid question. I have 3 people in my family with birthdays very close to Christmas and they hate it. But I also know someone whose birthday is on Valentine's Day and she hates that too!
It wouldn't stop me TTC because I have fertility issues.
Also, having a due date in Jan, Feb or March doesn't stop you having a Christmas baby because the baby could be born prematurely.

[Footofthestairs]

I have a christmas day born child. We certainly didn't even think about when the birthday would be when we were ttc. Just happy to have them here nice and safe. On the plus side having a salvation army band playing in the delivery suite reception whilst in labour was an interesting experience!! And we got gifts when we went to the ward after delivery - a crocheted blanket and some choccies. We pop a candle in the xmas pud but do a proper bday "day" on the weekend before xmas so we can do a party with school friends. Child likes sharing their bday with Baby Jesus at the mo!!

[Nowthereistwo]

We didn't try the months for a "Christmas baby" as I work with 4 people with December birthdays and every year they say how much they hate it.

I personally don't think it's silly to consider your future child's feelings when trying to conceive (the same way I wouldn't give them an out there name).

And yes I have some understanding of trying to get pg after mc, dd, mc, dd.

Obviously it's different if it's an accident but I wouldn't have planned it.

[Picnic2223]

I had this exact thought last year and as with Pp that was my month. I did worry about Christmas birthday (was obviously still thrilled to be pregnant, but also aware that my baby will one day be a child who will want to enjoy Christmas and birthday) however obviously there are more important factors. My due date was before Christmas and my baby arrived slightly early anyway.

In short I think it natural to think about it, the same way you will if you get a BFP which month will give your baby a summer birthday or a birthday near yours /your partners/siblings.

Good luck

[Junosmum]

I know people who have stopped ttc as they don't want Christmas babies. My DS was born 2nd Jan, I'm not bothered but I intend to train people in to separate Xmas and birthday presents!

[Coveredintinsel]

Yes I thought about it so relaxed a bit and stopped worrying, obsessing and didn't try to DTD quite as much that month.

Of course I fell pregnant and due date was Xmas Eve! I actually felt like I had used Sod's law in my favour as I was so desperate to be pregnant! DD was born just before Xmas and now her birthday just adds to the excitement of the festive season.

[Pixa]

No, I don't worry. I have to have IVF to be in with a chance of getting pregnant so I honestly do not care what time of year it possibly happens. I would feel blessed if it ever happens.

[PotteringAlong]

Some people might think you're unlucky being summer born because of school years...