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HiveBee · 2022-10-26T07:34:41+00:00

They are late teens early 20s one has actually requested their return to Tiffany necklace. I’ll be honest the other two haven’t but I thought it would be a nice keepsake for the eldest who’s travelling next year and the little one doesn’t have very much nice in her life. I just get fed up of flicking them hundred here, a 100 there for birthdays and literally they never seem to have anything to show for what they’ve spent it on. I actually gave them 200 quid each to go and get summer clothes and they didn’t which is vanished. is this a nice idea ?

latetothefisting · 26/10/2022 21:52

I'd much prefer the bag of weed over a tiffany necklace! I think they're horrible. They manage to be both cheap and tacky looking yet ridiculously overpriced, given they are only silver.

Be honest OP if your DH or Dsis asked for x present would you be happy if you got exactly the same, despite having never shown any interest in it?

Fair enough to say you will buy them something rather than giving them cash but let them specify what the something is! Or at the very least say I'd like to give you a piece of jewellery to keep, budget is up to x, please give me some ideas of something you'd like.

nomoreflyingducks · 27/10/2022 09:03

I think it's a lovely idea, although I really wouldn't go for mass produced poor quality at over inflated prices. If you want something unique with a bit of thought go to your local silver/ goldsmith and ask them to make something individual. My mum gave me the most beautiful pendant for my 21st. It's been skillfully made, it includes my birth stone as well as my mum and dads birth stones. I love the fact I'll be able to hand it down to my dd. I love the fact no one else anywhere in the world will have something so unique. As a general rule I don't wear jewellery. But I wear this pretty much 24/7. Since my parents shuffled off this mortal coil my pendant has become even more precious to me.

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HiveBee · 27/10/2022 15:14

nomoreflyingducks · 27/10/2022 09:03

I think it's a lovely idea, although I really wouldn't go for mass produced poor quality at over inflated prices. If you want something unique with a bit of thought go to your local silver/ goldsmith and ask them to make something individual. My mum gave me the most beautiful pendant for my 21st. It's been skillfully made, it includes my birth stone as well as my mum and dads birth stones. I love the fact I'll be able to hand it down to my dd. I love the fact no one else anywhere in the world will have something so unique. As a general rule I don't wear jewellery. But I wear this pretty much 24/7. Since my parents shuffled off this mortal coil my pendant has become even more precious to me.

Thats what she wants though. As an example my Nanna wanted a Cindy doll when she was growing up and her parents thought it was a low quality cheap piece of mass produce poor quality rubbish so they would buy her a handmade doll with beautiful eyes and a costume. I’m just using this as an example. She didn’t want the beautiful handmade piece of craftsmanship, she wanted the mass produced piece of shit Cindy. Like all her friends.

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aModernClassic · 27/10/2022 15:23

I think it's a lovely idea. I brought my DD a Tiffany necklace for her 13th, she loves it.
Ignore the haters, I think it's just jealousy.

Bookishish · 27/10/2022 17:52

It's likely that the DD going travelling won't be allowed to wear any religious symbol while teaching in China.

Ignore the negative comments on here- your DD has asked for the Tiffany necklace so obviously she likes them. For your other DDs, could you do a bit of subtle digging to see if they'd like one?

grey12 · 27/10/2022 17:54

MrsSkylerWhite · 26/10/2022 09:12

I wouldn’t want my daughter wearing expensive jewellery while travelling, tbh (assuming backpacking type travelling, rather than first class with Emirates 😁)

It would be ok, except for the fact that tiffany's is generally quite recognizable..... and thus everyone knows how expensive is is

AnApparitionQuipped · 27/10/2022 17:56

WarblingEttie · 26/10/2022 20:49

Serious question: how can you tell they're Tiffany?

Depends on the jewellery. OP mentions the 'Return to Tiffany' necklace where it's obvious. Otherwise it's whether people are 'in the know' and recognise the design. Of course as with anything there are plenty of fakes out there!

latetothefisting · 28/10/2022 08:02

aModernClassic · 27/10/2022 15:23

I think it's a lovely idea. I brought my DD a Tiffany necklace for her 13th, she loves it.
Ignore the haters, I think it's just jealousy.

Why would it be jealousy? Most people on mn aren't 13 years old so it's not inconceivable they have different tastes to your teenage daughter!

I can easily afford to spend £300 on a necklace, but I'd prefer to get something worth that for that money, not mass produced costume jewellery that costs maybe four quid to make where you're just paying for the brand name.

I don't see any issue at all in the daughter of OPs who asked for it having what she wanted but think it is very weird to assume that just because 1 child wants something all the others will appreciate the same present!

PeekabooAtTheZoo · 28/10/2022 08:10

Bookishish · 27/10/2022 17:52

It's likely that the DD going travelling won't be allowed to wear any religious symbol while teaching in China.

Ignore the negative comments on here- your DD has asked for the Tiffany necklace so obviously she likes them. For your other DDs, could you do a bit of subtle digging to see if they'd like one?

This! You don’t flaunt religion in China, it invites trouble.

Also I can’t believe how silly some posters are being ‘it’s only a £200 necklace just get it insured’ if it is around her neck it makes her a target and whoever wants to steal it has to remove it from her neck somehow.

China itself is largely safe but she will probably go to some of the rest of east asia where in certain areas a £200 necklace is a beacon attracting attention from thieves and scammers who will think she is a rich tourist and, at its most benign, charge the rich tourist prices, and at worst violently rob her.

PeekabooAtTheZoo · 28/10/2022 08:11

Hit post too soon! So if you get the Tiffany necklace for her, do ask her to think about not taking it with her if she goes on excursions.

Anonmousse · 28/10/2022 08:22

I'm a jeweller and would always suggest an indie jeweller over Tiffany, because its very overpriced.

However if one has specifically asked for that then it would seem silly not to get the item she's requested.
For the other 2, could you maybe get a gift voucher so they could choose something themselves?

MajorCarolDanvers · 28/10/2022 08:27

Do they want or like jewellery?

Jampage · 28/10/2022 08:30

I don't rate Tiffany necklaces, I think they're boring. Very overpriced & not attractive. Surely there are better options? The only good thing about Tiffany is the pretty box.

MissBattleaxe · 28/10/2022 08:31

"They're a few hundred pounds, it's not like they'd be walking around with a good Rolex."

In countries where there is true poverty, they won't know how much a silver necklace is worth, they will just steal it or assume the Westerner with the silver necklace is richer than them and overcharge them/rip them off/rob them. They won't turn their nose up at brands.

Scout2016 · 28/10/2022 08:52

I wouldn't want something just because my sister did and it seemed like a nice idea. I hate getting similar-but-not -the -same as her gifts, we don't have the same tastes and it takes the shine off my gift. I don't like being lumped together when we are very different and it feels lazy. Getting everyone something like a funny tshirt or novelty socks is one thing, expensive jewellery all from the same shop is another. If your DDs like their sister's when she gets hers then it can be an idea for another year or a birthday.

Can you tell I haven't got over being chuffed with a toy as a kid, only for my sister to pull out nearly the same thing?!? 30 odd years on...😂

nootsy · 28/10/2022 09:11

You could look for some on ebay. I got mine in my teens & 15 years later when they were ubiquitous sold it for similar on ebay. I guess the 90s revival have bought them back again.

nootsy · 28/10/2022 09:16

OMG I just looked on the website (not been on in years) & the price changes! I have a bracelet that costs £500 more than paid & a necklace is 1k more. I need to dig them out! 😆

TheWomanTheyCallJayne · 28/10/2022 09:22

I would be really upset if I was bought a reasonably expensive present just because my sibling liked it.

As for not seeing anything for their money, it may be the difference between them being able to afford to meet up with friends and buy a coffee etc. A little bit here and there but real enjoyment. Of course it’s down to you if you want to buy one big present but I would ask them individually rather than giving them all the eldest’s preference.

i also agree with the other about wearing it in China. It may not seem expensive to you but in the grand scheme of things it very much is.

grey12 · 28/10/2022 14:58

Anonmousse · 28/10/2022 08:22

I'm a jeweller and would always suggest an indie jeweller over Tiffany, because its very overpriced.

However if one has specifically asked for that then it would seem silly not to get the item she's requested.
For the other 2, could you maybe get a gift voucher so they could choose something themselves?

You could tell the others that you'd like to give a piece of jewellery. Give them the same price limit and let them choose. Maybe they'd prefer some gold or silver. Or maybe not a necklace. I'm personally more of an earring person.

snowmanshoes · 28/10/2022 15:25

My daughter loves Tiffany - however only certain pieces for some reason 🫤 some people detest it (like everything) - if one daughter has asked for it then of course buy her it if it’s what is in your budget.
my youngest daughter often liked things similar to her older sister but I know that isn’t the case for lots of people.
You could ask the other sisters opinions on your choice of tiffany necklace for the one that requested it and see if they show any interest or not for Tiffany?

CoolShoeshine · 28/10/2022 18:10

You can get a return to Tiffany charm and buy your own basic silver chain to hang it from, saves a bit of money. My dd had one for her 17th birthday and wears it very often. You know your daughters best, if you think they’ll like it then it doesn’t matter if some mumsnetters think they’re tacky.

Bookishish · 28/10/2022 18:14

You know your daughters best, if you think they’ll like it then it doesn’t matter if some mumsnetters think they’re tacky.

Quite. I never understand why people bother posting that sort of thing, as if OP is going to say, "Sorry, teenaged DD, I know you wanted a Tiffany necklace but a random middle-aged woman I don't know told me online that she thinks they're tacky, so here's something completely different".

Badger1970 · 28/10/2022 18:27

My DD's have all got one, and wear them all the time. Turned out to be a very successful gift, DD1 asked for one for her 21st and so did the others.

Sisintheland · 30/10/2022 15:46

Do they all live with you op?

Watapalava · 30/10/2022 16:20

I’d give them whatever they want - even if money

i can’t stand this obsession with buying something that they can kerp

if someone wants cash I give cash!