If you are in your late 20's/early 30's or have children that age...

[Pollywallywinkles]

How much is spent on you/do you spend on them for Christmas?

[douchbag]

I'm 31 and got sfa last year off my parents

[BreadForBrains]

Late 20's here.
Dm spends around £60-80 on me (don't know for sure), usually a jumper and some smellies. She spends about 50 on my dp and the 3 gc.
Df buys for the 3 gc, spends around £25 on each of them.
Mil around £150 on each of the five of us.
We have enormous families.
Dp and I either agree not to do presents for each other or spend up to £1,000 on each other.

[Szeli]

i'm 27 and have a few siblings and since the dawn of time we have had £50 for christmas and birthdays and a few wrap ups for about another £10.

our partners have £20 each spent on them and our children have around £50 spent on them by my parents.

DP 29 has around £30 spent on him and the same for me nd DS off his parents

[mumtoone1]

I'm 30 and hate getting gifts although they are always appreciated I always say not to bother with me and DH. My mum and dad still insist on giving us gifts. Probably to the value of £100 each. Inlaws are the same. Other gifts are normally a small token from family, chocolates, baileys a DVD and they are again not expected but very well received. I'm much more of a giver. I suppose it depends on circumstances. Some late 20 year olds may be single, no kids and it's different.

[Pollywallywinkles]

Ahh, I always buy presents for my side/friends and DH the same for friends (he has no family) out of our own money. Also within my family, blood relatives have always had more spent on them than inlaws. So I probably look at things slightly differently.

[jamtoast12]

I think part of it is also because my parents gifts from us generally come from our money (even if we buy separately) so it would seem weird them reciprocating less for him given most couples will have contributed equally to the parents gifts once married.

[TheOpaqueAndJelliedTruth]

I'm 29. I honestly don't quite know, but my parents have very generously been giving us substantial amounts of money (with the cheerful 'we'll die, and we don't want you paying capital gains tax' argument! ) once a year. Actual presents, I would guess maybe 30-50? They do spend a lot.

In all honesty, I slightly wish we'd go for more token-y presents.

[jamtoast12]

I guess i just figured that once you get married, you become one family as such. Dh is son in law to my parents so they treat him exactly as by brothers and his family do the same with me.

It's the same as birthdays and Xmas. I have to admit I'd feel weird if my parents gave me £50 and dh less considering we've been married 12 years and are adults!

[Chipandspuds]

FIL usually buys DH and I a big box of chocolates from M&S so maybe about £15?

DM usually spends about £20 on DH and £20 on me but this year has said she's just going to buy for DS and baby no.2 which is due in Nov. as she's really short of money.

[Pollywallywinkles]

Interesting comment Jamtoast. I personally can't see myself ever spending the same amount on any future husband of DD unless I'm only spending a small amount on each of them. I certainly don't spend anywhere near the amount on DDs partner as I spend on her.

[HumblePieMonster]

daughter and son in law are 32 and 31. they spend more on me than I do on them and their almost-three year old. they have more money. I'd spend more if I could.

[PrincessOfChina]

I'm 34. DH and I usually set a limit, it's usually around £100 each but had been as low as £40.

DH's parents usually spend around £200-300 on us plus a few sticking filler type gifts. They spend around £200 on DD.

My DM spends around £150 on me, £50 on DH and around £200 on DD.

My DGM and Aunt&Uncle (childless) combine to give us cash. We each get £100 and a chocolate orange. DD probably gets another £30 of little gifts from them.

[Fairylea]

Wow this is quite interesting :)

I get £20 ish from my mum in gifts. My dad is absolutely useless at remembering anything other than Christmas (never sends birthday cards for me or dc at all) so he just sends a sort of combined present cheque for "all of us" for about £150-200 at Christmas. Him and mum have been divorced 20 years.

I never understand dhs family. They all tell their mum and dad what they want and they get it! Literally word for word on the list. I hate the lack of surprise / choosing the gift. All seems a bit weird to me!

[amy83firsttimer]

I'm 31 and married. My parents spend around £50 on my DH and anything up to around £200 on me. We have one child on the way so I imagine this year will be the last time they'll be so generous.

[jamtoast12]

I'm surprised by how many peoe get different present values compared to their husbands? Both my parents and dh parents treat us both the same and give us the exact amount - I though most did that once married.

[Pollywallywinkles]

Some very mixed responses here. Thank you for sharing.

[coffeetofunction]

I'm in that braket. £20 at Christmas off my mother...£50-60 off mother in law.... They both live on very different budgets tho

[birdfeeder]

I'm early 30s and my parents spend up to £20 on me (usually less). Their joint income is under £17k so I wouldn't feel comfortable with anything more. For the dc (mine and my siblings' dc) they just get a chocolate selection box each from my parents.

I spend about £20 each on my siblings, although the gifts I get are often 'worth' twice that or more due to bargain hunting. DH and I spend about £100 on each other (but often semi-practical stuff that we'd get anyway).

My PIL are well-off and very generous though - I get £100 cash plus about £100 worth of toiletries/accessories every year.

[awsomer]

I love Christmas!!!

I'm 27 soon to be 28 arghh

We set limits, so I'll get £25 spent on me by a few family members. (Although some of us are better at sticking to it than others. My mum definitely went way over that last year.)
My OH and I spend about £30 on each other.
My dad and his DP give me £50.
My PIL gave me a mug. Not that I'm not bitter or anything...

[JadeJ123]

My mum & step dad give me dh £200 each for Christmas and DSD £150 and then about £180 for birthday.
Mil & fil spend about £180 on DSD and then give me and dh £100 bot christmas & birthdays.
My dear brother gives us £100 each and buys DSD a present.
We spent about £280 on both my mum & step dad.
About £70 on mil & fil.
£160 on my dear brother
And DSD about £600 for Christmas and £160 for her birthday

[eastmidswarwicknightnanny]

My husband n I used to spend £100 on each other plus stocking of no more than£20.

We now spend £50 on each other, £20 from little one and a stocking

My mum spends about £30 joint on us and my dad the same
Fil spends about £25 joint on us
Mil about£30 joint

We have a 4yr old and a baby due Nov and would rather money was spent on them we really don't need anything in fact fil buys us a massive bone in gammon n tin sweets every year much more useful!!

[inchoccyheaven]

My parents spent about £20 to £30 each on me and dc and tiny bit less on stbexh. Usually just chose things from our Amazon wish lists. Ex and I would probably spend about £100 on each other unless something major wanted.

[Lally112]

I'm 29, DH spends a couple hundred on me and I on him, hes 31 (we save up all year and take extra shifts to make sure we get something really nice) but lose track of what gets spent on kids. I don't have family really on my side so no presents to buy there but MiL and FiL about £50 pounds each on present, BiL about 70 pounds on his because he is still only 15 and DHs grandparents its about 25 each.

[LBOCS]

DH and I are both 30.

DM spends between £100-300 on me (us) depending on what it is - for example she bought us a new front door last year (v. Expensive). We're very lucky; she says she's trying to reduce her assets before she needs to go into a home.

She'll probably spend about £30 on DD, she's only going to be 2 and doesn't have very expensive taste yet.

DH and I spend about £150 on each other. Except for this year as they were big birthdays.

[306235388]

I'm early 30s I get £50 from in laws about the same plus little things from my parents and then I'm not sure maybe £50-75 from dh and the kids.