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Christmas cards between nursery kids...

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Babanouche · 12/12/2013 19:50

I think it's potty, myself. The kids at DS's nursery are giving out cards...or rather, their parents are giving out cards masquerading as cards from the 3 & 4 yr olds. Today one little girl was extremely upset because she didn't have cards and her friends did. Seems to be a lot f unnecessary stress imo. Is there a good reason I should join in this charade and give out cards from ds?

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Yama · 12/12/2013 19:52

Ds has come home with various cards most days. It's a nonsense. He won't be giving any out.

Dd on the other hand, at 8, can write her own.

ZingChoirsOfAngels · 12/12/2013 19:56

not a snowball's chance in hell!

we do none for kids' classmates - if they want it for a few friends it's up to them.

I refuse to pay for, supervise/write myself and distribute 150+ cards for 5 childrens' classmates and teachers.

If I had one child then maybe I would do it, but as it is we have 6 kids, so it's no x 6.

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Babanouche · 12/12/2013 19:58

Fab. That confirms it then. No cards!

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SammyandBilly · 12/12/2013 19:59

We've done ours tonight, I had no intention of doing any but my 3 year old was upset that her friends are giving them out and she hasn't. She can just about write her name, but no way can she do her name in 20 cards so I wrote them and she did the 'x' kisses at the bottom.

My 4 year old has written her own for her classmates, she is very excited to give them out tomorrow.

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Babanouche · 12/12/2013 20:33

sigh...yes, I guess there is that. Dammit. Anyone would think christmas is for the kids.

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elQuintoConyo · 12/12/2013 20:49

Thank god I'm not in the UK where this happens. DS is 2, has been going to nursery just three shorts months and we barely know the names of 2-3 other kids, let alone a room full of them!

As it is, next Tuesday we are supposed to bring in a wrapped gift for Santa to give to DS. DH was panicking about cost and the size compated to other kids, I said we'd just wrap something he's already got!

When they're so young I wouldn't bother with a lot of this. If you think this will happen every year - the card thinf, I mran, perhaps get a stack of super cheap cards in the January sales and keep for next year?

ZingChoirsOfAngels · 12/12/2013 20:53

quinto

DS5 is getting something"pre-loved" from Santa tomorrow as well!

no idea what it will be, have to look around tonight....I hope it's his black shoes I've been looking for weeks now...

lisbapalea · 12/12/2013 20:54

I am a complete hypocrite as I agree it's utter nonsense, but we did it anyway. DD is very excited that she can now write her own name so she did that bit and I did the rest.

Have to say, when I agreed to it, I thought there would only be about 10kids to cater for, so was a bit shocked when I got a list of 22 names from the preschool!

I am actually quite embarrassed that I fell for this nonsense. I hang my head in shame...

Steben · 12/12/2013 20:57

I haven't bothered so glad to see this thread - about 30% of dds class have though

TeamSouthfields · 12/12/2013 22:08

wow!!! bar hum bugs!!!!

Sirzy · 12/12/2013 22:12

DS is just turned 4, I wasn't going to put he asked to. And insisted on writing them for himself, I am very greatful he only has 18 children in his class it has taken a week of a few cards a day to get them done!

PolkaDotParty · 12/12/2013 22:15

My heart sank when I read in the newsletter from preschool that "the Christmas postbox is out and ready for cards". I have absolutely no intention of wasting time and money on cards from and for children who can't read or write - it's clearly mad!

3FrenchHenD19s · 12/12/2013 22:15

I should get my daughter (aged 6) to write my cards as she did her 30 last night and even wrote happee crismus on all 30 envelopes! She loved writing them!

Flisspaps · 12/12/2013 22:17

DD's nursery have a little postbox to put the cards in, staff pass them to the kids as they leave so no-one sees how many everyone else gets.

DD was so excited to get some today, but is determined that she is only sending 1 to her best friend and no-one else. She's only 3 but clearly can't be arsed writing loads

RubyrooUK · 12/12/2013 22:43

My DS1 (3) loves getting nursery Xmas cards so much that I do cards for everyone at his nursery. Lots of people send them back and he is thrilled. I see the other kids ripping open theirs with joy too.

This morning DS1 was very self-importantly carrying in "his cards for his friends" to nursery. He has always been extremely shy and a bit socially awkward so I love that he is now getting the hang of friendships and if cards make him happy, well, I can do them. (Although I should have been doing a work presentation...)

WomanScorned · 12/12/2013 22:44

The tiny cards cost less than a pound, DS gets to practice writing and I get to find out a bit about the people he spends his days with, even if it's just their names. He pegs them to string strung across 'his' end of the living room and tries to remember who sent him which one. He gets excited when he gets duplicates. If I wasn't doing this with him, I'd be doing something else equally tedious.

Anja1Cam · 12/12/2013 23:36

My kids are a bit older now (Y1 and Y5) but I have always let them choose what they wanted to do. This year the 6-year old has written one for all her class mates (with no help from me, and great writing practice), and so far the 9-year old has written none. Last year in reception I think the little one wrote a number, and I helped a bit with spelling out the requested names.

We certainly don't engage in the "must write card from X because they gave us one." though.

3FrenchHenD19s Exactly - I should get her to do mine, and I only need to send about 10 or so to the people not living locally.

Nix01 · 13/12/2013 10:36

My kids enjoy giving their friends cards. It is the season of giving after all.

madmomma · 13/12/2013 11:15

Oh it fucks me right off. I just don't do it for my 3yr old. If he asked me to and wanted to participate then I would but it gets right on my tits and is meaningless. Just another guilt-ridden job on the never-ending list of pointless Christmas shit. I fucking hate Christmas cards just generally. I don't send any and any we get go in the bin.

capercaillie · 13/12/2013 11:18

My 4 year old loves doing them - she's at preschool. It's great for writing practice and she loves decorating them. Keeps her busy for ages too!

Lesshastemorespeed · 13/12/2013 11:22

Dd has always sent c cards to EVERYONE she knows, and would orchestrate this when all she could write was a 'W' (not even her first initial!)

Ds so has NEVER sent a c card to anyone, and I truly believe he never will.

I let them go their own ways.

Lesshastemorespeed · 13/12/2013 11:25

madmomma, you put all the cards you are sent in the bin? How rude, and wasteful.

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Babanouche · 13/12/2013 12:21

Devil's advocate here - you could argue it's rude to inundate people with unrequested mail. On the internet it's called 'spam'.

But seriously, the ones I'm talking about are the cards that are written by an adult hand. I suspect the child doesn't even realise it's going on.

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Pancakeflipper · 13/12/2013 12:25

My children never bothered until abut 4yrs old and they wanted to send to their closer friends. Thought it was a good handwriting opportunity for them!

madmomma · 13/12/2013 12:26

How on earth is it rude? Rude would be if the people who sent the cards knew that I would bin them. They have no idea as I accept them with a smile and a thank-you. I appreciate the gesture, I just hate the clutter. And wasteful is in the sending, not the binning. It's no more wasteful to bin them as I get them than to wait til after Christmas. Unless you think I should frame them? Particularly perhaps the ones that haven't got my name on; just 'from Jo Bloggs'

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