Late bedwetters

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Wasn't sure where to post this. Dd is 6.5 and still not dry at night. She hates wearing her pull ups still, especially as her 3 year old sister is pretty much dry at night (bar the odd accident).

But we've tried so many times and she just can't do it. I know it's not her fault and I'm really not worried about it, I'm happy to just wait. I spoke with the GP about 6 months ago who said to wait until she is around 7.5 and come back. What for I don't know.

We try every few months or so for around 2 weeks, no pull ups at night. She's never had any other problems with the toilet, been dry during the day since around 2.5. She's never been told off for bed wetting, we just sort her out, change the bed, back to sleep etc.

Dd only drinks water, last drink is at around 6pm, bed is 7:30pm. I get her up at 11pm when I go to bed. And she's still dry when I wake her then. She usually wakes around 4am absolutely soaked.

Did anything work for anyone else? I don't know what else to try!

@LifeOfHP16 he still wets, but it's a lot less often now and usually when he's absolutely exhausted.

He's 7.5 now and as long as we cut drinks by 6:30pm (he's asleep by 8) and ask him to go for a wee before brushing his teeth, then another one just before sleep we seem to be going well.

It doesn't bother him at all which is one of the reasons I'm reluctant to see a GP or get an alarm, If it's not a big deal to him I don't want to make it one.

If this happens, it's often because the body isn't making a hormone that usually kicks in when they are toddlers but if it doesn't, probably won't until puberty. Same happened to DS. Wet almost every night until he reached the beginning of puberty around age 11.

We were told to get him to drink a lot more during the day, especially early on. That one issue was that he had a very strong bladder. (True - never needed to go on long car journeys) and that it was only in deep sleep that the bladder relaxed. I don't remember that advice helping much.

Try some different types of pull ups to find discreet and comfortable ones, and make sure she has PJs with long baggy tee-shirts or loose nighties that hide the bulk if she has friends over or goes on school trips. You can try Desmopressin for short term dry nights - we had some (not total) success with it on school trips and sleepovers.

If she really wants to go without the pants, stick a large disposable mattress protector (Dry Nites make them) to her duvet where it touches her body and underneath her too so that if she has an accident, you can peel them both off and not have to wash all the bedding in the middle of the night.

Thank you all for your invaluable comments.

we’ll continue as we are and keeping giving all the support we can. DS is not stressed out about it so will try a few additional things that you have all mentioned. 🤞🏼

@QforCucumber thank you :)

Our 8 year old was wet every night, soaked through and would just sleep through it. Sometimes it would be early so we'd change the bed when we went to bed and the next morning it was wet again. Never had a dry night. We kept trying, giving lots of liquid in day and then cutting off early, pull ups, no pull ups.

Then tried the alarm, didn't think for a second it would make any difference. It was like a miracle! Literally three nights later and he was completely dry - it's now been a year or so since and have only had one or two wet nights since and they've been due to illness.

It is definitely the best thing I've ever bought!!

Following as my almost 6yo is still in pull ups. She doesn't care but we're going to have another go at removing them this summer.

My DS1 was dry during the day at age 2 but wore pull ups at night until he was 7yo. Then the pull up started being dry every morning so he stopped wearing them. I think this is quite common.

Following, as DS (8) has this problem. He is currently on Desmopressin- it's been about 3 weeks and hasn't really worked yet, but I do notice the volume of urine seems to be decreasing. He's still in pull ups- we did run out recently and had a go at going without- He was dry the first night, then wet the bed the next 2, he went back in them again. He's also on the waiting list for an autism referral. Will try encouraging him to drink more early in the day, and will consider an alarm. Do you think we should persevere with the Desmopressin?

My son was a bedwetter and God love him but it was awful. Things improved when the enuresis nurse came on board. She knew her stuff and things got better quite quickly. I was so delighted and to be honest we never looked back.

An update on this... almost 7 and still wet at night 😣

Oh oops I've named changed in the last year...

What have you tried?

Gosh it's so long since we had that issue in our house. We eliminated the problem when our Eneurisis got on board. It's a long time ago but it was tough. He's is 26 now and we've never looked back. Nothing else worked.
Best wishes

What else do you want her to drink at 6? Cans of lager? Tooth rotting juice/fizzy drinks? She only needs water!
Sending sympathy OP. This must be very embarrassing for your little girl.

My daughter is 26 and has bipolar. Normally I cope ok but watching my daughter struggling at the moment is really painful. It all looks so bleak. She's such a great girl but it's very tough right now. She's in hospital and I honestly can't cope with it right now. She says we can't live together because we end up in conflict. It's true. She will likely be homeless soon unless a place is found. OMG I'm really at my wits end. This is going to kill me. I'm not joking

Apologies for moaning and groaning. There's some talk that she might get somewhere. She's currently in hospital and has been there for a while. It's so painful to see her in pain. I'm not looking for sympathy but I'm really scared ill have a heart attack.
I'm

I need to cop myself on and start coping quickly.

I will cope. My partner, who doesn't live with us has no time for her at all. He doesn't believe that bi polar exists. He thinks that it's all her own fault for taking recreational drugs for fun. If anyone has any advice I would very much some words of wisdom. Thanks again x

Thanks for reading. Thank you very much.

You can ask to be referred now to the children's continence service. Various different options of treatment depending on what the reason is x

Op my child started desmopressin tablets at 7 years old, taken every night which worked.She just wasn't producing vasopressin the hormone which stops us producing urine at night.She didn't get dry until 14yrs but used Desmo most nights before that.She has hypermobility which the consultant later said may have been the cause.However she is also coeliac and will still wet if she gets glutened.
My advice -ERIC website, drink lots in day to stretch the bladder, last wee at night and then another just as lights out.Don't lift.If she really doesn't want pull ups alternate sheets and mattress protector in layers on the bed and buy a couple of thin ikea duvets which you have made up so you can strip sheets quickly and get her back into bed.The ikea duvets fit in the machine easily. But knowing what I know now I'd keep my DD in pull ups til she was 7 and old enough for the meds.Amazon sell these washable mattress protector pads which save time and monet too.

Our Eneurisis nurse got on board and with advice she eliminated the problem. I'd highly recommend you contact the Eneurisis contact at your GP or other relevant medics