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This discussion is sponsored by Little Tiger, and will end on 3 March.

Tomorrow is another day and start over!

The best advice I ever had was from a health visitor. She told me
'if there is a correct way to do something, then it will be written down or I will tell you. Otherwise it's all just a matter of other people's opinions so make sure you do what suits you and your baby best.'

Manage your visitors and feel free to say no to people. Don't let visitors over the threshold without food.

Not to expect too much from yourself! To accept that the house may be a mess and you may not leave it much, but that that doesn't matter.

For every situation you will get opposing advice. There's no 'right way', just figure out which stuff works for you and ignore the rest.

Trust your instincts.
Remember the time goes quickly.
Forget about routine.
Put the baby down once in a while.
And the thing about how vests don't have to go over the head!

Be prepared for everyone to tell you how to parent - smile and nod then do whatever is right for you and baby!

The best advice I recieved was from a friend. She said make sure you just sit and play together for a while every day. Don't get distracted, just enjoy each other's company for a bit. I really have stuck with this, and make sure we have at least half an hour of uninterrupted play just the two of us, without me doing the dishes or tidying up, getting stuff ready for tomorrow etc etc. It's lovely.

Don't under-estimate yourself!

The best advice I received was to see all advice as a "gift" - in the sense that you should smile, nod, politely accept it... but that you can choose to return it, or put it in the cupboard and ignore it after the giver has left!!! You get so much advice, from lots of well-meaning but not necessarily well-informed people, that if you listen to it all you'd go mad. It's about deciding what's right for you and your family and not feeling guilty about any of it!

Nobody is perfect

People are coming to see the baby not the state of the house

If the baby is upset cuddle it / feed it every single time and ignore people saying you'll spoil it!

This too shall pass!

Mum knows best, nobody knows what your baby needs/wants more than you do. Follow your instinct but don't be afraid to ask for advice or help.

As long as baby is sleeping , you all are sleeping.
Don't worry how you get baby to sleep or where your baby sleeps.

Trust your instincts and ignore advice that you did not ask for.

From a friend - There is no right way to parent, just the right way for your family.

And somewhat worryingly from my aunt - if your mother managed to not kill you and your siblings then (she's not really a beacon of how to do things) - you'll be completely fine at this parenting lark!

Trust your instincts. So many people will have so much advice, but only do what feels right for you.

1. The first few weeks will be tough
2. Trust yourself - what's right for you will be right for your baby
3. Enjoy your time with your baby, it passes quickly

Don't forget about you as a person, it's easy to get swept up in being the mummy but you're also a woman, partner and daughter. It takes awhile to realise this but you are important to

Have the confidence to say "NO" to people. If people want to pick baby up whilst s/he is sleeping- say NO. If mother in law gives you advice or tells you what to do- be able to say no. If people ask to hold baby in the first few early days, it's OK to say NO. You've just been through labour, give you and baby time to bond and your body time to heal before welcoming three hundred visitors, take time to yourselves and be able to say no! X

You can't spoil a baby. :)

This too shall pass.

Be kind to yourself, respect your body and enjoy

Host "New baby Open days" instead of having well wishers drop in whenever suits them. Sunday afternoons between 2-5.30, for example,mother you only have to be presentable and deliver tea and cakes for 3.5 hours a week In that chaotic first month!