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Paid childcare

Discuss everything related to paid childcare here, including childminders, nannies, nurseries and au pairs.

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Do you have a nanny?

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LovingLivingLife · 23/01/2025 17:53

To everyone who has a nanny looking after kids, what is the benefit over nursery? We have both options open and I feel so conflicted.

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Blondeshavemorefun · 31/01/2025 21:04

LovingLivingLife · 27/01/2025 16:25

Thanks everyone for your insights.

We are actually at that point of no longer needing full time nanny duties as our youngest will start preschool. The debate on whether to do full days at preschool and go without a nanny; or whether to do mornings only and retain our nanny has been an ongoing discussion. Little one is still napping 2+hrs so that's around 4-5 hours a day we would be paying for without having childcare needs.

I was wondering about approaching her to discuss a change in role to a more housekeeping set up but given all the comments above I'm not sure now.

The thing that makes me nervous about nursery is managing the multiple drop offs/ pick ups, sick days, activities and somehow managing not to impact my job more than is already happening. They've been very flexible with working hours but I still need to get my work done.

If you approach her and she says no , and the role is changing - then you will be making her redundant

youngest is 3. To me that’s young to get rid of nanny

they will stop naps prob in next 6/9mths likely

you have to decide does paying nanny to maybe do not a lot all day at the moment v to what you do instead as in hk role which many don’t want to do when in a nanny job

but readvertise for nanny /hk and sure you will get people but will they be the same as current nanny

or keep nanny and the security of nanny for before /after pre school and holidays and sickness etx

anon567890 · 05/07/2025 22:49

Isthisexpected · 27/01/2025 08:23

Nanny walks in and takes over from however far we got in the morning with breakfast and getting dressed etc. Absolutely no pressure on anyone to be ready. Much more relaxed atmosphere. Individual attention and care. Modelling of good behaviour and can agree with the parents how to manage development leaps and any challenges. Keeping on top of their laundry and toy rotation. Longer naps until about a year after my friends with nursery children. Avoids exposure to poor behaviour or language at nursery especially important from age 3/4 when they really do listen and learn.

Finding the nanny to fit with our family took three goes. Never looked back.

Sorry to jump on this old thread.

when you say finding the right nanny took three goes, can I ask what was the problems you came across with previous two? And how long you have the previous two before found the right candidate / third one?

issue I’m coming across on first nanny (and first time into this, now experiencing first time using a nanny (live in part time) and found she’s pretty lazy and taking the mick a fair bit. But LO is attached to her and ofcourse paid hefty agency fee originally to source her. So now I’m more aware of what I should have asked when originally interviewing potential candidate through agency and experienced it as a first time employer after however many months. How I go about potentially taking the leap to find another. And if I should just stick with what we have in our nanny, as god forbid I get someone who seems great but turns out worse. Or take the leap and find someone far better. But then little one looses this current lady in her life. (Being a solo parent with no extended family I know how my LO has become attached to this person in her daily life) but I know deep down if only I could try and test run another nanny or two I could for sure find someone more proactive and professional at what they do where our current lady is really badly lacking and taking the mick for what she does all round at my expense 🤦‍♀️

Whysitsohard91 · 19/07/2025 15:20

@anon567890 It’s a bit painful financially but in our experience 100% worth the switch. We had to let our first one go for a sudden gross misconduct issue but she’d been driving us nuts with various minor things even though was vg with our DC. Replacement nanny is 1000% better and we are all calmer and happier. Good luck!

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