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So what is the perfect Mother???.......

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MrsATeam · 23/07/2005 01:49

so is there one???....I do not deem myself to be a perfect mother far from it...but seem to constantly moan, whine and shout at my four children and do not seem to have any control over my brood....is there a perfect mother out there??....if so please come forward

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MrsATeam · 26/07/2005 00:35

Love your post BadHair day totally sums it up..

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MrsATeam · 26/07/2005 00:36

sorry BadHair...posted BadHair day.........sorry for this BadHair

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Aragon · 26/07/2005 07:22

No - not the perfect mother here either. Just left DS watching Balamory so I can get dressed ....... and snatch a few mins on the PC

matthewsmummy · 26/07/2005 13:52

i agree with mandymoo, i think every mother is the perfect one for their own child.
we all do our best and love our children more than anything else in the world and would do anyhting we could to make them happy and feel loved. (apart from the odd few, but the have serious problems if they could ever harm their own child)
so if you ask me we are the perfect mother in our own little ways. and im sure all our little ones think we are the best and thats all that matters.

MrsATeam · 27/07/2005 23:52

Aragon....LOL...totally understand where you going....do the same......

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MrsATeam · 27/07/2005 23:54

matthewsmummy (mandymoo) also agree we are each a perfect mum and each have our own way of dealing with our children in an individual way......

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wordsmith · 27/07/2005 23:55

I know one 'perfect mother' (who tries to be anyway, by doing everything 'right' and never slacking).

She gets on my tits. (sorry)

Chandra · 27/07/2005 23:55

I would consider myself a erfect mother if only I could keep my stressed self relaxed. Not that it will ever happen BTW

Chandra · 27/07/2005 23:55

as erfect that I can not even spell the word correctly

moo2 · 27/07/2005 23:57

perfect mother gets out of bed with a bib velcroed to her knickers, looks like shit and has dogbreath and her dd lunges at her and says "mama" and gives her a sloppy wet dummy to suck on. Well it works for me.

helsy · 27/07/2005 23:59

I love my children more than anything, and I show them that I do. I think that makes me a perfect mother. That I am a far from perfect individual, that they go to nursery as I work, that they eat babyfood from jars or sometimes have unironed school uniforms on under ironed cardis doesn't matter.

MrsATeam · 28/07/2005 00:02

chandra LOL hun.....

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MrsATeam · 28/07/2005 00:03

wordsmith.....let us know....is she a real pain in the a**s.....

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MrsATeam · 28/07/2005 00:04

moo2 also LOL this is the ideal perfect mother!!!!!!!!!!!!

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moo2 · 28/07/2005 00:12

Thanks MrsATeam!!! Not much good at much else at the moment! Finished work today (teacher) Knackered, rough, marriage in crisis, but my baby loves me and that is all that matters. Sorry sound like a nutter.

MrsATeam · 28/07/2005 00:56

moo2 you do not sound like a nutter but a person that has a lot on her plate....I do hope that your crisis marriage can be sorted out in some way tho........

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bloss · 28/07/2005 04:01

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wordsmith · 28/07/2005 09:41

Mrs A Team, I'm being a little unfair, she's a really nice person, but she's a full-time SAHM with NO financial worries whatsoever (due to large inheritance) and a husband who works as a teaching assistant so is at home a lot, so she can afford to devote all her time and energies on raising the perfect kids without any distractions. She never goes to McD's or anywhere like that, uses the word 'healthy' all the time in relation to food, makes you feel guilty for spreading butter on bread, buys only organic, doesn't have a TV, spends hours playing constructively with her two boys, makes her own soup, is incredibly thin, doesn't need to wear make-up, recycles everything, brings bagloads of cardboard boxes ad cereal packets to school every week for them to use in creative play, volunteers to tidy the school garden every Friday.... and just generally makes everyone else feel inadequate. And most annoyingly, she's always banging on self-consciously about how 'good' she's trying to be.

On the rare occasions I have tried to point out that not everyone has the time, back-up and resources to be as perfect as she is (I prarphrase) she says "Yes, I know it's difficult/hard work/time-consuming etc etc but I really feel it's worth it." This implying that those of us who do occasionally visit McD's/spread butter liberally/eat chocoalte every day/watch TV/ stick the kids in front of the video while we have a rest are somehow not trying quite hard enough.

Her kids are great - but the eldest boy (5) is a pasty-coloured dreamer who can't do anything unless his mum has given him full instructions and the youngest (nearly 3) is a yob!

mummyhill · 28/07/2005 18:58

No such thing as a perfect mum. Only mums who love their kids and do the best they can with the time and resources they have available.

Wordsmith - Does this woman realise that if you do so much for them that they cannot think for themselves you are putting them at risk? Feel for all of you who have to put up with a mum like this.

golds · 28/07/2005 19:17

wordsmith, I bet she is a incredibly boring person though ? I new a woman like her and she got right up my nose. Sounds to me as if she's got something to prove.

All I do is try my best and I think I do quite a good job, they are fed, clean and very happy. My dd told me I was perfect the other week, when they were at school I filled the paddling pool up in the morning, so the water had warmed up by the time they had got home its those little touches that mean so much to them

penpal · 28/07/2005 20:00

..........and to be a perfect mother you need to be happy with yourself and like yourself too... to give you patience if nothing else!!!!

nooka · 28/07/2005 20:59

my ds loves to tell me I'm the best mum in the whole world (to which of course I respond, "and you are the best boy in the universe"). I can't think why, but who am I to argue!

I know I'm far from perfect, but really who would want to be?

mummyhill · 28/07/2005 21:08

not me, i may not be perfect but we are happy

wordsmith · 28/07/2005 21:24

Mummyhill, yes, I've often thought that about her. Her DS1 may eat gherkins and salad but he is just not streetsmart at all and can't cope with the boisterousness of the playground too well.

On the face of it she should be an incredibly interesting woman - she's travelled the world and done loads of fascinating things, but she's so earnest. I imagine she was before I knew her as well, so everything would have had to be done 'right', there would have been no room for fun.

MrsATeam · 28/07/2005 22:03

hi wordsmith she sounds so perfect....although in reality from what you described not that perfect if her eldest cannot do anything without his mother giving full instructions

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