I'm finding this discussion extremely interesting.
I am a regular but easily identifiable so have namechanged to avoid discussing my birth options with everyone who knows me!
I am pg with my second and planning an elective section this time. There is no medical reason at all.
However I had a horrendous time first time around. Labour was horrifically long, there were a catalogue of errors, mismanagement, bad decisions and poor treatment throughout the process, including poor management of a separate non-serious but relevant medical condition I have. I have also had other significant problems with past care leading to a major lack of trust with NHS care.
As a result I am having baby no2 at a different hospital and have asked for a c-section. This is mainly because I feel I must do everything I can to avoid anything remotely similar to my last experience happening, including having more control over what's happening than I did last time.
I had my appointment with the consultant last week. Based on what I've read on here I fully anticipated a struggle to get my section as there is no medical reason for it. After what happened last time I really could not face weeks of uncertainty and arguments with people to get what I wanted agreed, so I decided that if at any point I felt it was going to be a struggle/too stressful, we would consider going private.
However there was no problem at all. Unfortunately I dissolved in tears as soon as I started trying to talk through my last experience. The consultant was horrified by it all and began to talk about people I could meet and things they could do to prevent similar problems this time. He also quite rightly and logically pointed out that second labours are very unlikely to be so difficult anyway especially given closer management following my history.
However I said given everything I would prefer to have a section. He understood completely, and I felt gave a very balanced opinion. He outlined the risks of c sections, both major and minor, including the actual numerical risks, rather than just how much higher than VB. He also emphasised that the risks for elective sections are different from emergency sections and should not be lumped together.
He emphasised that he had no agenda in getting me to do either, but given there was no actual medical reason he would recommend I meet two individuals to talk through problems last time and how they could be managed in the event of a VB. I said that I am happy to talk to people and even might change my mind but want to avoid stress and argument should I not.
He wrote on my notes that I would meet these people but, should I still want a section when we get to 32 weeks, I could have one.
I now feel reassured. I am comfortable that there will be no argument or stress about my choice. Because I know that I feel I can go into my next appointments and discuss a VB with a genuinely open mind, rather than having to 'firm myself up' for a struggle against an onslaught of 'natural is best'.
As a result, I may change my mind, but I will enjoy my pregnancy more and feel more relaxed about the birth knowing I have a genuine choice and will receive full information about both with no pressure.
A fully informed choice is the way to go. My choice will be fully informed and because I know it will be a genuine choice, I am more prepared to consider all the options presented to me.