Hello everyone,
Thank you so much for your stories and thoughts. I have been offline for most of the week so am not going to get a chance to read this all thoroughly until tomorrow.
I have experience of hospital environment slowing down childbirth already. Upon ringing the hospital to alert them that I was getting contractions 7minutes apart they said to 'take aspirin' and 'take a bath'. I had already read a book on waterbirth which advised not to get into warm water too early as it slowed down contractions and a friend of mine had contractions that stopped completely when she got in a bath.
Then my contractions slowed considerably on our drive to the hospital. I was examined at 4am and was 3cm dilated with contractions every 6mins. They had been every 2-3minutes for over a minute when I left home. They suggested we go home - I knew this was not a good idea and ignored the advice.
I seemed to be in more pain than woman giving labour but was told I could only have pethadine at that early stage - I was horrified, as I thought it also was something inclined to slow birth, and asked for gas & air. They said I had to be 5cm dilated before being offered gas & air. I made a fuss and eventually got it at around 5.30.
We were sitting in a dark room, dp half asleep, me locked to the gas & air. There was a staff changeover between 6-7 and so it was absolutely dead quiet. I felt suicidal as so grim compared to my lovely warm home and got up to walk around, as a friend had told me to 'keep moving' to hurry it along.
The new midwife found me at 7.30, and after a bizarre half hour they realised I was in labour and I gave birth without any medication and with just one push at 8.20. I would have given birth at 8.05 when we went into the labour room and I could feel the head trying to come out as I walked along, but I was told to 'breathe' hard as the midwife filled out the paperwork (??) - personally I couldn't have cared less about the bloody paperwork!!! My baby wanted to come out.
They said to be careful I didn't give birth in the carpark next time.
So, home birth seems very appealing to me, and we wouldn't need to send our daughter away, except to neighbours for an hour or two.
However, I am weighing this up against, being 42 and wanting to play it safe as I know I could not try again if anything went wrong. I would blame myself forever if I had a home birth and anything did go wrong. We have moved and the local hospital is pretty good and I know people who work there.
I shall read all your posts in full tomorrow. Thank you.